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post #106 of 579 (permalink) Old 10-27-2012, 03:12 PM
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Just phone call records and pics of her car outside his house might not prove an affair though. Just be aware of that.
Inclination and Opportunity is all a person needs to prove an affair. Chances are slim to none that anyone actually has a video of the unfaithful couple in bed together.

Inclination = the phone call records.

Opportunity = her car outside of his house.

I rest my case, your honor.

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Objection!

Hearsay!

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Objection overruled!

As long as the cell phone/ texting records are direct documented evidence from a provider that the exhibitor in court has a legal right to obtain, then that, is in no way, to be deemed as "hearsay."

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Told her sister it was MY fault.......I drove her to another....
Really
Yeah, you twisted her arm, put her in the car and drove her too the OM's beach house. Blah, blah, blah. This is the conclusion from an educated woman. Sure. Is that what she'll tell the pastor this Sunday?

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Doc,
Great job on going nuclear.
Has the begging started or she still pissed about the huge degree of exposure?

Does sancho still want her and all the drama that comes with her?


Wait, I forgot you went dark.

Whats the puzz around town? Its seems her only damamge control is now admitting it and telling others you "made her find a new reality". Not a very good defence IMHO!
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Well I'm back in town....she's still royally pissed and playing like she's the victim.....spreading the tale that I made her do it....among other things I was FAT....geez I'm 6 foot 240 harrow obese...
Told her how the he'll could she keep the 4k necklace I gave her six weeks ago for our anniversary. Told her I thought her serving me communion at church all last month was a cute touch....
She's gas lighting a d trying to act like a schoolgirl....took the kids to 0800 mass today and then youth group at 1600. LMFAO they have never been...
Had her best girlfriends/sister come staybwith her...
But she's the one on the couch, LOL
I'm sleeping in my bed!
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I'm sleeping in my bed!
Put a lock on the bedroom's door. Put all her stuff away.
Don't engage in any nonsese. Stare at her. See through her. She's a ghost. A cartoon. A child caught red handed.

This guy is a rock star!
Embrace the 180!! Live you life for you and your childrens.

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...took the kids to 0800 mass today ...
Hmmm I'm changing my mind about her. Maybe, just maybe, she was reciting early morning rosary at the beach? wadda you think?
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Sadly Doc

When a wayward is this selfish you need to use the nuclear option.

Take back the necklace. She does not deserve it.

Definitely pack the clothes.

Drop them off.

And let the pastor know what she has done.

It is time to humble her in the eyes of God.

Until she sees the errors of her ways you need to chip away at her mirage that she is painting to everyone.

Keep separating your life from hers.

Stay tough. Stay strong.

Keep kicking ass!

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Take the necklace and sell it back. Split the money in the settlment.

Have THAT money specifically set aside with a picture of the necklace wrapped around it so she knows that the emotional attachment is seen.

The tender memory will be ruined.
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Sell the house


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Now she is gaslighting big time. Telling all I am psycho, her "affair" is all in my head.
I hacked her email....as I suspected has 2 toxic female friends. #1 is a **** stirrer who's husband is a milquetoast. #2 is recently divorced from my wires first boyfriend 40 yrs ago before i came along. her divorce was final 6 weeks ago so she is coaching my wife..
the kids are telling me she is going out to bring home booze even though her friends IMPLORED her not to drink at all right now...
they think I am trying to set her up for the unfit mom scenario...hadnt planned on it
found ou she even gave the OMs email to her girlfriends and they are ALL talking...how sick is that.
she needs an OSCAR for this performance
Other than just staying dark anything else to do at this point?
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how old are the kids?
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Stop looking at her emails.

It does not help you if you are trying to move on. You already know all you need to know, anyway.

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I disagree. He might be able to discern her next steps and keep ahead of her by reading them.

This is war and her emails might contain battle plans.
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She should pay for her stupidity.

And if she keeps drinking and listening to the other toxic hens and rooster (POSOM) you just might end up taking custody of the children.

So stay 5 steps ahead of her.

And if she does not stop the nonsense then get out the hefty bags.

You know the rest.

That way she can go find herself......


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I've told the older kids about her boyfriend.....struggling with how to tell the 12 and 17 yr old. What to say?
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how old are the kids?

5 kids, youngest 12
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