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Put a lock on the bedroom's door. Put all her stuff away.
Don't engage in any nonsese. Stare at her. See through her. She's a ghost. A cartoon. A child caught red handed.
It's too bad new BH's don't already know how to use that alien pod people stare that WW's instinctively turn on guys once they know the score. where do they learn that, anyway?

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Now she is gaslighting big time. Telling all I am psycho, her "affair" is all in my head.
I hacked her email....as I suspected has 2 toxic female friends. #1 is a **** stirrer who's husband is a milquetoast. #2 is recently divorced from my wires first boyfriend 40 yrs ago before i came along. her divorce was final 6 weeks ago so she is coaching my wife..
the kids are telling me she is going out to bring home booze even though her friends IMPLORED her not to drink at all right now...
they think I am trying to set her up for the unfit mom scenario...hadnt planned on it
found ou she even gave the OMs email to her girlfriends and they are ALL talking...how sick is that.
It's totally typical. Woman herds are all about affirming each other's bad decisions. Accountability? WTH is that?

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she needs an OSCAR for this performance
Other than just staying dark anything else to do at this point?
Just remember, NO QUARTER. Other than that, just keep working on that chiseled Michelangelo physique.
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"I'm sorry you feel this way"
"I'm not OK with that"

Mal de muchos, consuelo de tontos
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Todays update....told my best friends wife in July she was leaving..."wanted to do things for herself"..... Remember she has not worked in 28 years!!
Says I spent her inheritance....LMFAO!! She spent it...40k in one afternoon buying art and jewelry....hope I can find the receipts this week...
The entitlement is amazing..........
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Todays update....told my best friends wife in July she was leaving..."wanted to do things for herself"..... Remember she has not worked in 28 years!!
Says I spent her inheritance....LMFAO!! She spent it...40k in one afternoon buying art and jewelry....hope I can find the receipts this week...
The entitlement is amazing..........
Doesn't matter what she says. Once an inheritance is incorporated into the marital funds and spent, she can't claim later that you (and only you) spent it.

Nice try though.
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Don't worry about her friends, they are there for her own benifit. they tell her what she wants to hear.

What you are looking for is an allie that she looks up to, some one she has high regard for, the few poeple in her life past or present that she has great respect for.

Those folks (even if its just one person) are your focal point when it comes to damage control and having an effective impact on your WW.
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I found out she had an IT guy at the house today....wonder what she is fishing for?
My laptop was with me all day.
Thoughts? Trying to check my hard drive? Firewall?
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Install a keylogger?
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I found out she had an IT guy at the house today....wonder what she is fishing for?
My laptop was with me all day.
Thoughts? Trying to check my hard drive? Firewall?
How did you find out that she had an IT guy at your house?

Do you have the name/number and company of this guy? I'd contact them and tell them that you want to know what this guy did to your computers, network, etc. I'd be adamant that it's your equipment and you have the right to know. You want a written report.

If they installed a key logger or any other kind of spying software/device tell them that you will sue them unless they come out and remove the stuff for free... and that you expect them to pay for you to have an IT guy/gal monitor what they are doing since the colluded with your wife to do something illegal.
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Todays update....told my best friends wife in July she was leaving..."wanted to do things for herself"..... Remember she has not worked in 28 years!!
Says I spent her inheritance....LMFAO!! She spent it...40k in one afternoon buying art and jewelry....hope I can find the receipts this week...
The entitlement is amazing..........
What will you do with the reciepts if/when you find them?

The dealers where she bought them might still have records of the purchases.

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How did you find out that she had an IT guy at your house?

Do you have the name/number and company of this guy? I'd contact them and tell them that you want to know what this guy did to your computers, network, etc. I'd be adamant that it's your equipment and you have the right to know. You want a written report.

If they installed a key logger or any other kind of spying software/device tell them that you will sue them unless they come out and remove the stuff for free... and that you expect them to pay for you to have an IT guy/gal monitor what they are doing since the colluded with your wife to do something illegal.


I would go hard core on these people until they do exactly what EleGirl says. Pull no punches.
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I would go hard core on these people until they do exactly what EleGirl says. Pull no punches.
I work for a big engineering firm and now work from home 2 full days a week and before/after work every day. I could lose my job and be in a lot of legal trouble is there were any kind of paying devices put on my system that allowe someone to capture what I do for work.

The OP is a doctor. He deals with patients records. He might have acces to them remotely. It could compromize patient privacy.
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The IT guy was a network admin. For viper technologies now free lancing. I found her cell comm. With him early in day..then eyes on ground confirmed....she's looking for some intel since I got the goods on her. She was not planning on that.
I just want the receipt for the 40 k worth of jewelry she bought one afternoon to show the judge how out of touch with reality she is!
It sucks being three hours away for another day since she could be selling my toys I guess....but I'm seeing my lawyer in am and he is a real sob. I could file here in the city which would be a different venue than the cowtown where we live and her family has been for 100yrs. I'm gonna see if I can beat her to the punch since she is 2 lawyer visits ahead of me....how fast can one file? Also how doni get my name off of the title to her car so if she gets drunk and crashes it I'm not on the hook?
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Your correct ElEgirl I do access the hospital from home so I will have my attorney tomorrow put the fear of god in em.....that's a federal violation. 35k fine
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Good point EleGirl. I do use my computer to login to hospital system. Ifbtheyvspied on that it's a federal violation, 35 k fine. Tomorrow they will getban education
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