Hi there again,
First off, I don't even know if "cheatee" is a word but what I mean by it is that I am the person who was cheated on, while the "cheater" is the one (my wife) who had been cheating on me.
You may remember me from this thread: Adulterous wife had 2 abortions before we met
Quick update, my wife and I are getting along a lot better. We have decided, for the immediate future, not to divorce and to put things back together for the sake of our children. I did kick her out of the house for one night but it was so tough trying to take care of my 3 kids, the youngest one especially, that I allowed her to come back home.
I realize that I do love my wife but am still trying to cope with the amount of men she had been with before me and the fact that she did have 2 abortions with a chap from Nigeria before we met. I am also still trying to get over the 4 emotional affairs she maintained while dating and being married to me.
OK, now here it is: because she hid her past from me and brought some of her past into my life (3 out of the 4 guys she was having EAs with were ex-boyfriends), she has allowed me to go out and sleep with other women (ex-girlfriends, women from dating sites, escorts, massage parlor staff, professionals etc.).
I do like the thought of being allowed to go buck wild and sleep with as many girls as I like but really don't think it will help me get over what has been done to me. Don't get me wrong, I'd love to go sleep with a woman years younger than me with no strings attached and the rest but will I be just making a torn apart marriage even worse? Will there be no turning back?
I'm guessing every man would love to have the opportunity I have been given but I just don't know if I am up to it or not. Again, would love to have no-strings-attached sex with random women again but...
What say you?