11-29-2012, 11:24 AM
Join Date: Aug 2012
Location: Southland, USA
| | Re: My wife of over 17 years is leaving me?
Originally Posted by badlogin
My wife and I have been together for 23 years. She was 17 when we first started dating. We have been together the hole time. We havent spilt up for even one day in all that time. I am to blame for this to a point. In 1984 I damaged my back in 89 I was paralyzed temporarily in a car crash with a smashed 30% L1 vertebra. 2001 I was hurt at work and blew out my L4 and L5 disc. At that time we moved out of state. To go work for my folks. To keep from blowing back out even more. We moved there and I started losing control of my left leg from nerve damage. So I was forced to have a operation. That means I could no longer work doing anything I have ever done all I have ever known. My L4 was bulging and my L5 was extruded to the point the doc said it was the wurst he had seen in 20 years. Needless to say I could not stand or sit for very long for a year. Not long after my dad went down in a plane crash. He lived but bled out and died two times before he got to the hospital where he was dead 30 mins before being brought back. The wishes of my stepmother. So now we have moved to a new state I have no job. I have lost my ability do the kinda work I know. We have no friends other then my stepmother that sees me as a strange bird in her nest. Around 06 we saw the economy taking a dump so we headed back to our home town. Dec of 07 I was rear ended by a 19 year old kid doing 80mph texting. He increased the L1 compression to 50% and my L4 L5 and found out I have kidney disease . Ya it finaly broke me. And I started having social depression. I have not been able to work this whole time. Not by my wishes. Now we have two kids and my wife has gone back to work. The one place I didn't want her. A casino. She went there because she wanted to work at night and get up around 2pm for the kids. Now she makes more thena I can and because she sleeps I can't even try to get a job. And now after 23 years and not split up one day in all that time. She said she is wanting a divorce. She said it will help me get better. Cop out! What can I do? She said Im a good father and husband. I don't know what I will do if she leaves me. I love her more then my own life and I always will. .
I am extremely sorry for what you have been through! That being said, you talk a lot about what happened to you, the circumstances and how you felt. But you did not mentioned your wifes feelings and what you love about her. It just seems you are afraid of being alone, now that you need someone.
Recovering "Mrs. Nice Girl".