Being made fun of by his coworkers...
OK, I get my WH works with guys who cheat and cover for each other when they go out of town. This I knew, but he played me for years saying how much he despised their behavior... Right. So there in itself is a culture that helped lead him into his poor decisions. Several of the notorious cheaters were ones he admired at work. So I guess I shouldn't be surprised by any of this, given the poor respect marriage and family seems to be given in his workplace.
We've seen several coworkers end up in divorce because of this behavior. The kicker is they finally got caught, while my WH got away with it for eight years. Those women got the opportunity to remarry, have more children with their new husbands. I did not, I'm now into my 40s. I feel I was robbed of life, in an argument he told me he would not get snipped in case we divorce. So he would marry younger and start fresh I suppose. But, I'm now too old to do such. My children are getting older, I'll just be out there alone. It made me realize "family" is a very disposable thing to some of these men. Struggling with the definition of family this holiday season for sure.
What kills me is why coworkers would cover and lie for so long... One of the women I was referring to was being cheated on during her pregnancies, he was having a ONS every time he went out of town, was having affairs at work. Everyone knew, why did nobody come forward? Eventually, somebody did... But, nobody did for me. I talked to a male friend. He said there was always the one guy who would cheat out of town and everyone just turned their back. Given what we've all been thru, would you speak up now? I think everyone deserves a right to know. I was denied a better life because of the secrets and lies.
ANYWAY, since it hit the fan he went around telling coworkers he had a drunken ONS years ago with a stranger out of town and I can't get over it. Has turned this into I'm the bad one. What none of them are getting is the years of lies and manipulation I have been put thru. That he spent a year giving me a false story. I saw a text a buddy of his sent him. It said are you still nailed to the cross? This really made me mad. He knew that girl, saw her again. I feel he purposely humiliated me more and I've now become some crazy wife that can't get over a BJ. Has he told any of them he failed a poly? It was no BJ and it was years of cheating.
I'm just feeling mad this morning. Morality no longer exists in this world.
Last edited by hurtingbadly; 12-02-2012 at 09:47 AM.