Re: What do you think of this text message?
Yeah. I saw that after I posted. For whatever reason, you are the bad guy in the divorce.
If you want to feel better about yourself, go ahead and dig.
But here is the thing: you don't know WHEN she engaged in any hypothetical affair. Did she do it before you were the bad guy, or after you were getting a divorce?
If it's the later (and how can you prove that? I guess check phone records or hire a PI) than it's irrelevant. For whatever reason, you were the bad guy and she decided to rub your nose in it by finding your replacement tout de suite. If it's the former...does that really change the fact you were, in your own way, a bad guy? No. She is also a bad girl. That doesn't change you.
Heck, the text COULD be from a GF, just to get your panties in a bunch. Women sew. They use a needle to get under your skin. They poke DEEP.
Take the pain as penance and move on.
Edited to add: Okay, maybe you weren't the bad guy. But YOU pulled the trigger and now you want validation for your choice.
In that case, I would say this: Even without the 'proof' of an affair, you found your marital circumstances intolerable (if they were tolerable, you'd have stayed). So you are guilding the lily if you want more. Your rationals didn't chance. You just want to heap more on the scale which was already pointing straight at 'lose 135 pounds for your mental health.'