DDay was 16 months ago. Everything was swept under the rug until about 5 months ago. I couldn't take seeing him in constant pain and started looking for help on how to repair what I had done.
I found TAM and started reading. I turned over usernames and passwords. I got it clears through my employer to give him the pass code on my work phone. We've been going to MC and there has been improvement.
Some background on hubby: he is former spec ops who then worked as a medic. After 3 back surgeries, he was physically force to retire and lives with chronic pain requiring narcotics. He is a stay at home dad to our five month old son.
The issue I need help with is that after my EA has come out and we're facing all the problems we've ignored, he says the one thing he has trouble dealing with is that I don't 'need' him. He feels that since our roles have shifted and I am the primary breadwinner and take care of the housework, that he serves no useful purpose in our marriage.
I need him emotionally and tell him that as much as I can but its feeling like I'm still missing something. Is this common? Any thoughts or suggestions?
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I found TAM and started reading. I turned over usernames and passwords. I got it clears through my employer to give him the pass code on my work phone. We've been going to MC and there has been improvement.
Some background on hubby: he is former spec ops who then worked as a medic. After 3 back surgeries, he was physically force to retire and lives with chronic pain requiring narcotics. He is a stay at home dad to our five month old son.
The issue I need help with is that after my EA has come out and we're facing all the problems we've ignored, he says the one thing he has trouble dealing with is that I don't 'need' him. He feels that since our roles have shifted and I am the primary breadwinner and take care of the housework, that he serves no useful purpose in our marriage.
I need him emotionally and tell him that as much as I can but its feeling like I'm still missing something. Is this common? Any thoughts or suggestions?
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