Re: With D over R, will WS to miss BS more than AP?
I think it's a really good way to snap them out of the fog. After DDay1, my husband basically forgave OM and me for our sexting. I kept away from OM for a few weeks, then he showed up at my work & things started up again, then went from EA to PA.
At DDay2, husband exposed to OMW, made me leave the house, transferred all the money from our bank account, etc. Took me about 48 hours to be totally clear of the fog and never want anything to do with OM again.
H never filed for D, but I felt like any day I would be served papers. We are 6 months past DDay2 and in R, but it has been a rough road, and I know how I have no room to even entertain a thought of betrayal or I will lose my husband (not that I want to).
I think there is definite benefit in exposure and the 180. When I saw what I really stood to lose, I started fighting with everything I had to keep it.
~ChangingMe, former wayward wife
Thankfully still married to DevastatedDad
We cannot start over, but we can begin now, and make a new ending. -Zig Ziglar