Help! Husband cheating and won't stop talking to OW!
So, I've been married almost 8 years, together 13. We have a 2 & 3 year old. we've been fighting more recently and I've just felt a big distance. So H comes to me and says that he is done, wants a D...what? I sob, we fight, we talk... then 4 days later he drops a bomb. He has been cheating. several one night stands before we had kids, then this last one started out as just sex, then turned emotional. I was devastated. I was completely thrown about the early marriage cheating. We went to a MC the next day. He says he doesn't know if he wants to be with me, fell out of love with me and doesn't know if he ever loved me. The kicker, while he decides what he wants to do...he wants to keep talking to the OW.
I would like to try to work on our marriage, see if I can forgive and if he can stop cheating. He wants to sleep on the couch and talk to both of us. I have read divorce rememdy starting doing 180s. I know that the state of our marriage involves me...not the affair part! I just feel so lost as to what to do! It kills me that he won't stop talking to this woman, I guess he doesn't love me. At least that is how I feel.
I have told my boss and my family, but he doesn't know that. He is only really talking to one friend about it. I'm scared to tell him I've told them for fear he will leave, but really...he's already gone. I make his dinners and lunches, coffee. And as of last week he no longer show me any affection. I'm just so full of fear. I am stuck. Any suggestions or people who have been there would really help!!