Re: Husband says Jesus forgives him
I don't know why some spanish guy forgiving him makes this okay.....
Sorry couldn't resist. I DESPISE people using religion as a pass for their bad behavior. Your husband MESSED UP ROYALLY!! Instead of owning to his responsibilities, he's using this obtuse idea about forgiveness to rug sweep.
Here's some other bible teachings about what's going on.
1. MAT 5:31 "It has been said, 'Anyone who divorces his wife must give her a certificate of divorce.' 32 But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become an adulteress, and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery.
So the bible says you can divorce justifiably because infidelity is WRONG!
2. Matthew 19:6 So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate."
So why did HE choose to separate. He took another woman, so HE went against god. You can choose not to associate with a heretic. (sorry, you pull the Jesus forgives me card, you get the rest of the cards in the deck as well)
3. Hebrews 13:4 Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.
4. (and this is a BIG one) Daniel 8:25 By his cunning he shall make deceit prosper under his hand, and in his own mind he shall become great. Without warning he shall destroy many. And he shall even rise up against the Prince of princes, and he shall be broken—but by no human hand.
5. 1 Corinthians 6:18 Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body.
And in regards to forgiveness. I would debate that Jesus has forgiven him. To achieve forgiveness, one must be repentant. Repentance doesn't happen simply by saying sorry. Here are some to address that
1. 2 Corinthians 7:14 If my people who are called by my name humble themselves, and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven and will forgive their sin and heal their land.
Has your husband "humbled himself". Has he turned from his wicked ways?
2. Revelation 2:5 Remember therefore from where you have fallen; repent, and do the works you did at first. If not, I will come to you and remove your lampstand from its place, unless you repent.
it's referencing doing the RIGHT things. As in lets assume your husband was a good husband at one time. Is he doing THOSE things.
And this one is the kicker...to repent is always mentioned to "humble" oneself You want the definition of that.
3. James 4:8-10 Draw near to God, and he will draw near to you. Cleanse your hands, you sinners, and purify your hearts, you double-minded. Be wretched and mourn and weep. Let your laughter be turned to mourning and your joy to gloom. Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will exalt you.
Has your husband "cleansed his hands", "purified his heart", "mourn and weep and be wretched". "Have his laughter turn to mourning and his joy to gloom"? Does this sound like an EASY task?
Your husband is using the idea of unconditional forgiveness (which isn't CORRECT but I'll get into that in a moment) being some easy task and that YOU'RE wrong for not forgiving him. This is a delusional attempt at rug sweeping because he's putting his energy into showing you why you're wrong instead of doing the most important thing. The bible clearly states that you must "cleanse yourself" then "humble yourself" then "repent" AND THEN you'll be forgiven. It takes time and effort for the sinner to achieve forgiveness. These are things your husband ISN'T doing.
PS no, I'm not a christian, but I grew up being exposed to some GREAT bible teachings and how to interpret and search the bible.
The more posts I read.
The more I love my wife!