Whey can't they admit fault?

tkdan · 07-02-2009, 03:29 PM

The pain is still strong. And no I'm not even considering reconciliation. I just want the best possible outcome for the kids sake. They are the innocents here. I realize she did not just decide to do this out of the blue, but the issues that lead to it were nothing that could not have been overcome had she confided in me instead of another man.

827Aug · 07-02-2009, 06:53 PM

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Originally Posted by tkdan

She had the therapist tell me that accusations and suspicions were counter productive to working on our marriage. That I needed to demonstate trust, which she used as a way to have more time with this man. You do not know how many times she would make me feel guilty, telling me "you will never trust me" while she was continuing to carry on in her affair.

Wow! That sounds familar too. During one of the few times my stbx and I went to couples counseling, he did that too. He was cheating and denying it. Even when I had proof there in my hand, the therapist told me I had to learn to trust what he told me. I replied to the counselor that he had to learn to tell the truth first! That's the day I found myself a very nice individual therapist and began trying to put my life back together. It is just unbelieveable what some humans are capable of! As I've said many times, cheaters lie so much. Then they even begin to believe their tales.