Hi everyone! Thank you for all your responses. That was at 3:45am so I realized today that I hardly gave information! I just had a day to myself at the beach to contemplate! and actually relax!! these sleepless nights has to end soon!
The day I caught him, he made me read his skype conversations as well as yahoo. He showed me everything because I told him I need to know. I know others say that it is better not to know. But for me, I just NEED TO KNOW!
That night that we fought, his dad called. HE heard us fighting. So, the next day his dad called and talked to him about it. In a way, I am thankful because that night I caught him I was just in pain and I just couldn’t talk to him properly or look him in the eye. I would just scream and hit him and I just cried each time. The lines on those chats just kept (and til now) repeating in my head. His dad told him the consequences that may occur. He told him that he should stop his foolishness and that he should fix everything. I thanked his dad via email and he replied that he was willing to help anytime we needed his help. His dad is a man of few words so I never really talked to him before this. But, I am thankful he did that.
We talked that night his dad called and he outlined his mistakes. He also deleted the women from his contact list. As for skype, there is no way to delete your account nor the conversations. SO he makes me check them. I do know that the girl has stopped communicating as mentioned above. He told me he knows his mistakes. He knows he wants this to work.
On our first year of marriage we were really thinking of divorcing as I went through a lost of a best friend and didn’t feel that I loved him anymore. SO there were papers but it did not PUSH THROUGH. I was able to overcome this and realized that this is what I really wanted after year2. AS I said we’ve been married for 3 years and things have actually been ok! SO This whole thing was really DEVASTATING AND SHOCKING
As of now, I’ve decided to quit my job because I am going back to school but also because I feel if he has time to do all this then he can make extra money to pay for bills and mortgage. I know this is extreme but I want him to work for everything in this relationship. I am just not willing to go an extra mile to help him like Ive been doing all this time. I may be wrong in doing this. But I really am still mad and hurt.
I hope I’ve answered most questions. WE share only one laptop so all the users for logging in skype and yahoo are actually automatically displayed so I know there is no other accounts. We have both deactivated our facebook accounts since he said it’s best and he wants this to work. He has shared his passwords as well.
By the way, is there a way to change my username as he might be able to tell that it is me. Just wondering. If not, all is well.
Thank you for all the threads that you mentioned! They were really helpful!