Re: to post or not to post
Is he married? Did you contact his wife? If so then leave it at that.
The blame lies on your wife 100%, the OM didn't contribute to the affair. All it needed was your wife to say no. If you need someone to take it out on, you've got the wrong person in your cross-hairs.
People unless the OM/OW put a gun to your spouse/SO head and told them to cheat they did not contribute to the affair.
No, I'm married.
No, I'm with someone right now.
That's all they needed to say and they didn't so it's 100% your spouses fault and no one elses IMO. Blaming others is just a way to protect the image of your spouse so you can look them in the face and not feel liking puking all over them or worse.
You screwed up my life, you destroyed my family, you don't deserve what you have now, etc...
Guess what, those should be directed at your wife, the OM didn't do any of that, it was all on your wife. Let go of the anger if your wife has started to be the wife you've always wanted.
NOBODY ELSE IS TO BLAME BUT YOUR CHEATING SPOUSE, end of discussion and I'm the damn cheater in my marriage.
If I had just said, NO I wouldn't be here and you wouldn't be here if your wife had said NO also.