Tryingtobreath

Regarding getting thru an affair where I will not be reconciling.

Any other books you found helpful getting thru divorce and affairs.

Thanks!

SadandAngry

Getting Past the Affair: A Program to Help You Cope, Heal, and Move On -- Together or Apart:Amazon:Books

This is good, gives you strategies to help either way.

Miss Taken

Corniest title ever but:

Nasty Men: How to Stop Being Hurt by them without Stooping to their Level, Jay Carter

(This is not an attack on men by the author, he also wrote the books Nasty Women and Nasty People.

While not written specifically about infidelity, I found it very useful in learning more about the things I endured with my ex and also about me. My bastard detector is a little broken so the more I can learn about red flags when it comes to relationships, the better.

Living with the Passive Aggressive Man, Scott Wetlzer

Again, not about infidelity although it is discussed briefly in the book. A lot of people mention passive aggression on these forums so it may or may not be useful to you if that's also something you've dealt with, with your WS. Written about men but applies to women also.

Another one I've read recently is the Break-Up Bible, by Rachel Sussman.

I saved my money and borrowed this from the library thankfully. Most of the advice is similar to advice that can be found online for free so I didn't find it very useful but you might. It has good ratings on Amazon... I guess it would be okay to have on your shelf when you're distracted by your separation and the power is out and you need to be told things you already know. :/ Her take on infidelity is also not too great to me as she takes the stance that both are responsible for the affair and I disagree with that. The problems leading up to the affair, yes. The affair itself, no.