No better results, but I'll commiserate. We're on our 3rd MC since DDay1 5.5 years ago.
MC1 was reputedly one of the best in town, however through some twist of fate DW baffled him with deflection to the point that our joint sessions became little more than
support sessions for her fog. I eventually stopped pushing DW to attend more sessions, and MC1fell off our grid.
About a year later, I started with IC1. After a dozen sessions, he asked if he could meet DW. The session in which they met was terrible for me. Right out of the gate he attacked DW too harshly. I now recognize that he was just cutting through her layers of BS, but in the moment it was a bit much.
More than a year went by, and then I got hit with DDay2....and 3....and so on. I started seeing IC2 and then, simultaneously, IC3. When DW and I called off our divorce, IC2 became MC2. Unfortunately, while IC2 was a decent IC, she couldn't keep control of a heated MC session, and besides, she was too colored by a year's worth of IC.
On IC3's recommendation, we began see MC3. We're still with her after a year, but, DW continues to deflect in session, and MC3 is always ready for another rabbit hole. I feel a hard discussion or another change coming on.
IC3 is AWESOME. He's helped me with soooooo much. I've practically begged him to see us in a joint session, but he'll have nothing of it. /sigh. He probably knows best.
I haven't included our pastor in all of this. He's seen us a half-dozen times, individually and in joint session. He's a great pastor but I think our situation and personalities overwhelm him. He's definitely more interested in our walk than riding out to meet problems head-on.
Thanks for letting me share. Hope there's some commonality in our stories which is of use to you.