The minute papers are signed, make sure the OM is on cheaterville.com
Oh and do not forget to take her debt out of her part of divorce settlement.
Oh I will do that for him. I was even considering putting her on it. But I will refrain for now against her..
I know one thing for sure she is deadly afraid of me and the interent. I am very internet savvy. Its part of what I do in my work and I have copies of many things she did. I could literally just put up a website with a time line of everything she did and just send it to everyone she knows.. I can google bomb it that just googling her name will make it come up as a hit. She does not want that. I am saving that big elephant gun for the end if she tries anything crazier.
The letter will cover me in case a creditor comes after me for one of those accounts.
I just need her to GTFO..
Another concern I have is the OM..
I know I will meet him eventually. He never seen me before. I've lost 50 LBS. So I'm much thinner ( and sexier ).
I know he will want to see me. I don't imagine him actually coming up to me, but I could see him standing at the top of the steps when I pick up my son or drop him off.
I could tell him a few kind words, but I think the best is just to not say anything and just cut him off to just shut him up if he tries to make any comments. To explain that his words mean nothing. The good thing I have is I can always say to him this discussion is family business, your not family. Your just that other guy.
I think my best sticking points are that I can push the My Sons, My family line. EG Mind your business I'm talking to MY SON. Mind your business I'm talking to the mother of MY KIDS..
He still might want to complain or say something, but I can always push it off on my EX to tell him to mind his business. Either she has to tell him to be quiet or suffer the consequences of what might transpire if he keeps talking.
If she tells him to be quiet, it will piss him off. Which is great because it will start a fight between them. If she does not, then she knows well enough I have a sharp tongue and A LOT of ammo to piss him off. The most he can tell me is he took my wife away from me. Which no matter how you say it won't sound good infront of the EX and it won't phase me. If anything it will make her look cheap or like some sort of prize. Which I already told her is what he is telling others about her. End result it re-enforces my past statements.
What can he tell me about her I don't already know
So I am just trying to cover all the bases. Its part of what I do at work. We go through all the scenarios and what if's, so when they happen we don't stand there stunned or doing a "Oh sh1t moment"
What I want to do is extremely limit any actual conversation between me and her. Basically either talk quickly through text message or email. But no actual verbal communication. Everyday when I call I will have my oldest call to speak to my younger son and then I will get on the phone.
But I just really do not want to speak with her. I really want to go all Buddhist monk on her, vow of silence style.
I reserved myself and accepted the fact that everything will be in doubles. double birthdays, double confirmation party. I don't care.
I don't even want her at my funeral if I should be so unlucky.
I already made arraignments with a friend of mine to control my money for my kids, if I should die. He is a soon to be millionaire and will make sure to make my money grow for the benefit of my kids. I certainly trust him more then I do my EX.
Anyways, this seems to be it. Let see what happens in the upcoming week.
Again another weekend coming. I hate them with her there. I could clean up the place but I just don't want to let her know NOTHING.