@ aunt eva
I have been talking to friends at work and a few that are divorced.
Oddly enough Just about everyone mentioned that the EX came back looking to reconcile. I don't know if they are just BSing me to make me feel better or being honest. I never asked if they came back it was just part of their story. So I can't see them as BSing me to make me feel happy.
I was just amazed again how retarded this whole process is. Wife goes into Fog and either is forced to realize and stays or they get divorced. Then they want to come back.
I know 3 men that have taken their wives back after a year or more. But many had moved on and just didn't want the pain.
As for this girl. I got the story. End result she wanted a kid so she solicited someone to have a child. There is no attachment between her and this man. She has a sitter for the child until she comes home from work. Basically 7 am to 7 pm. Again she is squared away. Single mom handling her business.
Honestly I'm not looking for EA, but a little PA.
.. Sorry being an asshat.
I went after my wife because she was better looking and a bit more sensual in bed.
My brother told me maybe I stop being so vain and that maybe someone "less better looking"
might be a bit more caring and trust worthy. That maybe I should look a bit deeper before counting someone out. Oddly enough someone said something similar to me today at work. It was weird I thought him and my brother spoke.
My brother went on to point out a few of my past relationships and showed me how every attractive women I've been with had left me hurting. Whereas the slightly less attractive women I have been with stuck by me and I was the one breaking up with them. It sounds retarded I know, best I could do to summarize what he was saying.
Unfortunately I am starting to see how I work and the honest hard reality is, I look solely at a women for looks and then I see what they are about inside. As long as they are not crazy or not crazy enough that I don't notice, I fall for them.
I just don't find anything wrong with a women if I like her. So I fall in love or strong affection for them. Like I mentioned I'm very monogamous when I'm with a women. I don't just date to have sex or one night stands. I don't need a guys night out. I can spend 24x7 with my significant other.
Another friend of mine waited later in his life to get married. He would tell me the cool thing about being single is either your feast or famine. When you feasted its non stop, but when you hit a dry spell you start to wonder if having a steady girl friend might be better. He admitted he had been lonely from time to time and it was a bit depressing.
I honestly never had a complaint about sex with any women I've been with. Its been steady throughout the relationship. Even with my current wife I was getting it 3 to 4 times a week and she tells me she didn't love me for a year. Go figure. Honestly I might say she was faking some of the time, but I can't imagine she was faking it all the time. We had sex 3 days before the final conflict.
This wife was my crutch for me getting out of my first marriage.
Honestly my first marriage I was 25 and we dated for 3 months. She proposed to me. Got down on a knee with ring and all. It lasted a year. At least when she broke it off, she was straight and to the point. I want a divorce. There was no one else, she just was done.
It hurt me, It took me 3 months to stop crying. The last cry was in the basement bathroom of the precinct. I still remember it till today. It was weird I just knew that was my last tear for that relationship.
I'm just jump from relationship to relationship. There was a time I dated, but it was only a few months.
I guess I got some relationship issues myself. It seems I don't like being alone.