Re: I'm having a real hard time dealing with it
In the end, for me, it's the children who are the real heartbreakers. They are what makes everything worth it. Your W is in the process of bombing ahead with her 'new life' and praying to God that her kids will just go along so that she doesn't have to face the reality of their reactions and feelings.
For some people, this is enough. They fail or simply refuse to acknowledge realities and then go about their lives, tough luck to their children. My father was like that and he messed up my brother very, very badly; my father, on the other hand, just went about his life, never facing the ruin he caused - not ever.
So, it's up to you at the moment, H2H, to give your children the solace and security that they need. They are lucky that one parent is thinking first and foremost about them.