01-14-2013, 03:25 AM
Join Date: Nov 2012
| | Re: Text Affairs...I feel betrayed
Originally Posted by Merryl
My husband of 14 years continues to betray me year after year. Although I cannot be sure he's had physical relations with other women. He is obsessed with talking to other women via email & text messages. He has gone so far has creating a false name and another email adress to have sex chats with other women. He also posted an ad looking for no strings attached relationships. I've lost all trust in him. He says he loves me with all his heart and is very remorseful for a few months, before he starts again. We have two boys and I worry about them. I feel lost, I don't know what to do. I've recent;y found some text messages to another woman, asking if this will be their year for an affair. I haven't yet confronted him, but I think he knows, because he's deleted her name from his phone. He's very clever with deleting all messages and history items from our home PC. I think he enjoys the security of a home and marriage but he's also looking for something on the side. He believes that what I don't know wont hurt me, but the problem is that I alsways know...somehow. What do I do?
I'm sorry for you. Now is the time to take action and find out how far this goes. Is it more than text/email? You don't know and need to find out. I would put a keylogger on the computer and I'm sure one of the techie geniuses will be along to tell you what to do about the phone. A voice activated recorder in his car is a must.
Do not confront him yet, not until you know as much as you can. It's hard to stay quiet while you gather the evidence but it really is the best thing. The in meantime, you take care of your babies, rest, eat, exercise when you can. Keep in touch with all the folks here who will help guide you through the madness.