01-16-2013, 12:54 PM
Join Date: Jan 2013
| | Husband cheated 12 years ago
My husband & I met in 1998. We had our first child in 1999. We got married in 2000. About 10 months after we were married, my husband told me that he wasn't in love with me anymore. He suggested that me & our 2 year old daughter go to my sisters for a few days. I was completely blindsided by this. he kept stating that it was because I didn't show him enough attention. A few days later I heard that he was cheating on me. When I questioned him, he stated that him & this girl just talked, but nothing happened. We were split up for about a week & then we decided to make things work. As the years passed, we worked on our issues, but I always had a gut feeling that he had an affair. That it was more than just talking! He swore to me that nothing happened. Well, the truth always comes out. For me, it wasn't until 12 years later. One of his friends confirmed that the affair did indeed happen. I finally got him to admit to it. He kept saying how sorry he was & how it was the worst mistake of his life. He stated that he didn't tell me the truth b/c he didn't want to hurt me. I love him with all of my heart. We have built a wonderful life together with 2 amazing children. I just don't know how to react to this situation. He lied for 12 years! He states that he has never cheated again, but how am I supposed to believe him? Once a cheater, always a cheater? Will I ever be able to trust him again?