In an EA, the WS can see nothing wrong with the AP and everything wrong with the BS. That is how the "fog" works.
In my case, the POSOM was married with a 1 year old and a 3 year old when the EA started. He also had a girlfriend. He left his wife and kids, divorced asap, THEN he had a PA with my wife while still maintaining his girlfriend. THEN, he met another woman, became engaged (while continuing the PA) - eventually marrying this woman.
My wife is very attractive, extremely successful, and intelligent. Yet, she thought this guy was everything she was missing in her marriage. They NEVER argued. They didn't have any stress about kids. They could complain to each other about their marriages and find a sympathetic ear. All they did was have fun!!! The fact that he was a sleaze ball, screwing around and cheating on everybody did not seem to matter.
THAT is the power and the danger of the "fog". OP: It sounds like you're still a little bit in the fog - but starting to come out. Once you're out - you have to make some clearheaded decisions. No matter what you choose, you need to be 100% honest with all players involved. That is for their sake - but more importantly it is for YOUR sake.
You don't want to go through life as a lying cheat. Find your character.
Yea . Personally I've never thought intelligence has much to do with passion or love especially in early fog days . You like who you like , it just happens.
And yea again. See this is why l'm here today and we "are" working this stuff out finally . I don't mind the kicks , l need to get clear on it all once and for all after today and the last 4 mths and you guys are doing it.
l just don't know how to thank you after the hell we've been through.
And again , you mention fog , l'd never heard of it before coming here and then to me it was quite obvious that my wife was the one in fog.
But now l see , l was in the fog long long before her , with K.
The chemical wacko syndrome , the lot