Time flies when you're having fun, doesn't it? I just decided to give a quick and general update on my situation. Those of you who visit the RECONCILIATION thread already know most of it, so this is for the other posters who haven't been there.
My Ex-wife is currently staying with me, while her apartment is being re-modeled. We are getting along better than we EVER have, even pre-affair. Her therapy is doing wonderful things for her and she is much more mature, loving, and thoughtful than she ever was in the past. Our sex life is spectacular, and she has proven to me that her affair was NOT about sex, but about the emotional issues SHE has, and the bad state of our marriage, at the time. She has literally gone to the bitter end to show her remorse and shame and is slowly working her way back to a positive self-image. With all of her work on repudiating the affair, controling her anger and dealing with other pre-marriage issues she has, I can say that I am VERY PROUD of her and that the affair is no longer the main issue we face. I believe that that I can be confident that it will never be repeated.......EVER!
We have come a long way , since late August /early September, when I first said that I would be willing to talk to her about our situation. I never, in a million years, dreamed we would have come this far. I now realize how much I love this woman, and and am finally able to forgive her.
Every single day, she will do something to show her love and I am willing to do the same.
We have decided that we will not re-marry for a while yet, (if ever) but that she will live with me as my SO, for the time being.
So, that's about it. If you guys have any questions or comments, I will be happy to hear them.