Re: Wife had affair. 2kids..please advise on how to deal
1. She resorts to violence when she doesn't get her way.
2. She punishes you when she doesn't get her way.
3. She has manipulated you to get her way. In fact, you are now paying for her to live in her party shack, where she can do whatever the hell she wants while toxic sister babysits.
4. She is actively dating and fvcking other men.
Sorry WHEA, but you married what we call a "pretty princess." They are selfish, and have an unreasonable sense of entitlement. Everything is all about her. She is most likely a cluster B personality disorder (narcissistic or histrionic). She's broken, and you can't fix her.
Your marriage is a sham, and she is not your wife. Cut off her funds, file for divorce and custody, and then run fast and far.
Learn to avoid these types of women in the future.