01-30-2013, 05:54 PM
Join Date: Aug 2010
| | Re: tough love for WS
In my case I confronted my FWW with confidence and certianty. when she started blameshifting I started packing her things.
But having been here for a while I have also read enough post to see what works and what doesn't.
The 180 is tough love, it mentions the indifference, the disengagement that one must have to get a point across, and the point is you will not tolorate a waywards crap, you can't control them but you can control your self.
With that, cutting them off emotionally is just as effective as cutting them off finacialy, together these tactics shine a light on the reality of a waywards behavior. It shine a light that you don't have to take it anymore.
Asking a way ward to leave is tough love.
The reason its tough is cuz its tough to do after loving someone for so long.