Re: Should I give the OM info about my wife?
Dammit, I wish I would have asked this question, but I have to add to a solid answer of NO! I made the mistake of contacting my wife's fantasy boyfriend and it didn't go well. The coward of course never responded, but I know the way she changed even more towards me afterwards that he had shared what I told him.
They'll just use it as an opportunity to see you as the pathetic villain, bringing them closer together. Plus, you think a guy who would seduce a married woman gives a damn about anyone or anything? They're in it for the ego boost, the high of seducing someone who shouldn't be available, and of course the sexual rewards. Trust me, it will do nothing but backfire...
By the way, I'm gathering from comments here that you may have alluded to some of the advice of posters here as being bitter here? Again, another mistake I made. I posted here after my wife's first affair and allowed myself to cling to the idea of reconciliation even against the warnings of people here. I thought oh, they're probably just a bit bitter and don't really know US. The sad thing is, they do! I've learned the posters here are experts at this stuff, because many have lived it and have seen so many stories with so many similarities. Listen to them man!
Last edited by StillLife; 01-30-2013 at 09:09 PM.