Hope1964

Why won't people LISTEN to us?!?!

It's so frustrating sometimes.

I do know why, it's just so sad.

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John2012

More details please. Who is not listening??

SaltInWound

Fear. They think what they currently have is better than nothing. It is the "don't rock the boat mentality".

old timer

You talking to me?
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Hope1964

Not specifically

This post is what prompted me, but she's certainly not the only one

Why isn't prerecorded porn good enough?

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SomedayDig

Sorry...I had Lamb of God playing and it's quite loud.

On a serious note, those of us who have been dealing with this crap for a while kind of get it. Kind of. I say that because no matter how long one has dealt with the effects of infidelity, there comes a time when you can't hear what someone is trying to tell you. It's like when you get water in your ear and everything is muffled.

Everyone takes this in their own time. Some take a very, very long time. Some never get there.

We can say it once, twice or three times. Then we must sit back and let them take their consequence. In the end...that is the only way that they will truly learn.

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Hope1964

I know. It just breaks my heart sometimes. Sigh.

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John2012

I'm one of them who took advantage of all the feedback posted on this forum for my WS painful episode. Honestly TAM made me a better person.

The only reason which prompted me to listen to all of your advise was because I find that I don't have any other help and because I sincerely believed what you all said.

I think, if TAM becomes paid-service, more people will listen , implement and see the results quickly and spread the good word !!!

Hope1964

I don't like that idea - so many people who come wouldn't come then. Besides, we aren't professionals. We're just collectively more intelligent than the vast majority of them

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John2012

I was just kidding about paid-service!!! But what you said is true, "We're just collectively more intelligent than the vast majority of them" !!!

Jasel

What makes a "professional" though? Technically marriage counselors are "professionals". And look how off the mark many of them are.

C-man

Yes. Got better advice here, for free, than any of the three MC's we used (two with my wife's EAP - one private at $180 per hour session).

karole

Everybody wants to believe that their situation is the exception to the rules..........

Hope1964

This is SO true, isn't it?

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