Got caught with the neighbors wife...
About 3 weeks ago I got a phone call from my neighbor, and also a good friend, saying that he knows I have been romantically involved with his wife. We have been neighbors for abt 3 years, our kids are similar in ages and play together all the time. This infidelity started about 3 months ago via text. My neighbors wife "Fran" and I started texting each other innocently enough, and then one night after I had been drinking a little, I sent an inappropriate text and instead of being shut down, received a rebuttal text that was just as risque... This is when it began.
A background of our families; they have been married for about 13 yrs, i have been married for 7.
We got caught cause she wrote a detailed letter and he found it, ironically the letter was a prelude to ending this. She is a really good person who apparently was having a hard time in her marriage. They had problems way before any of this started. Im not sure if thats why she opened up to this relationship, or if there were other reasons.
He has been a gentleman throughout this entire ordeal. He has not told my wife, cause he doesn't want to break up our family, which i am obviously greatful for, but just makes me feel that much more horrible. His wife and my wife are very good friends, and as much as i don't want her to know for my own selfish reasons, i also would hate for her to feel uncomfortable in our neighborhood and lose one of her closest friends.
I know I am a complete scumbag, i never meant for things to go where they went. They are a beautiful family, and the thought of them falling apart because of me is tearing me up inside. I need to know if there is anything i could possibly do to make things better. The amount of self hate I have is enormous. Thank you for reading and any comments you may have, negative or positive.