I was talking with a few people about this. If you really, actually love your spouse, you would not betray them by committing adultery.
If you stab your spouse in the heart like that - you DO NOT love them. And if you think you do, you don't have a grasp of what love actually is.
My stbxww said to me in tears "I need to figure out how I could hurt someone I love so much so badly". It's not love. It can't be. She constantly still tells me how much she loves me, that she always did - she never stopped.
That is a lie.
No offence to anybody trying to R with their ws, but if your spouse cheats on you, they do not actually love you, and may be incapable of love. They may think they love you, but that is NOT love.
Love is many things. Respect, loyalty, honesty, protection both physically and emotionally, affection...when your ws f*cks someone else during your marriage, they have proven beyond a reasonable doubt that they are not any of the things that make up love.
It's proof they do not in fact love you.
If you stab your spouse in the heart like that - you DO NOT love them. And if you think you do, you don't have a grasp of what love actually is.
My stbxww said to me in tears "I need to figure out how I could hurt someone I love so much so badly". It's not love. It can't be. She constantly still tells me how much she loves me, that she always did - she never stopped.
That is a lie.
No offence to anybody trying to R with their ws, but if your spouse cheats on you, they do not actually love you, and may be incapable of love. They may think they love you, but that is NOT love.
Love is many things. Respect, loyalty, honesty, protection both physically and emotionally, affection...when your ws f*cks someone else during your marriage, they have proven beyond a reasonable doubt that they are not any of the things that make up love.
It's proof they do not in fact love you.