Re: My husband had sex with a prostitute. Now what?
First I would like to say how sorry I am to hear what happened to you. Secondly I say - and this might sound harsh - it takes two to tango.
Have you thought about why your husband might have gone and done that? Im not saying anything (lack of intimacy, confidence, etc) on your part justifies his behaviour but it might have given him the push to do something so awful that he has regretted.
The fact that it has been hurting him as well should be a bit ofma condolence, in a sense that he recognised he made a mistake. Sadly as you also have two children, his self gratifying behaviour doesnt exactly make him Daddy of the year! Do the children feel the difference in his behaviour (if there is any)? Children are funny like that, they sense things as Im sure you know.
Moral dilemma here is the following, are you going to stay with someone who so betrayed your trust for the possible sake of the children, your life together, your love for him? Or are you going to leave him, start a new life on your own with your two children ( I dont know your work situation) ?
I would do the following: and this is speaking from experience, give him a chance, tell him as it is, no sweet talk, be a super confident and awesome woman that couldnt care less about him ( on the surface), love your children, take good care of them as they might feel something is not quite right between the two of you, tell him this is his one and only chance, if he doesnt prove himself to you, you are history as men are queuing to be with someone like you (even if they arent). Try to go to a counsellor together, who can help you overcome this.
Have you also done an HIV test! Also just a general examination by your gyneocologist to ensure no herpes etc has been passed onto you. DEMAND that he goes and gets tested for all STD's, HIV, etc too! Make him show you the results.
Good luck to you, there is a lot to think through here. Also what works for one person might not work for another. Focus on yourself and your children and things will change!