How do I deal with wifes issues!
Hello, I wanted to write this to seek advice for my marriage and 3 month old son. I am 21 years old and she is 19. I know we are very young but we have been together for 2 years and married for 9 months, Had a child in December and he is 3 months old. Well, It all started about a week ago she was acting really strange all of the sudden. Hiding her phone, Texts, Emails, Facebook stuff. We both have each others passwords at this time. We used to check each others stuff all the time without care. So, I decided to get on hers and look to see what was going on. Well she told me her ex-boyfriend messaged her and I said okay, He said he wanted to be friends and I told her she shouldnt even be talking to him. Keep in mind this guy has cheated on her 3-4 times and has OD'ed on pills when she left him last.
So, when she kept acting weird. Being on her phone litterally 24/7 for a week I started asking questions and getting upset because of it. She wont get mad and say "There's nothing else to do!" Or something in the order of that. So I did more research on her things without her knowing, I found she has been talking to people telling them how can she file for temp custody of our child and that she doesnt love me anymore. So I asked her about it. Again she starts getting mad and screams and yells and doesnt talk about it. So I did more research to find that she used her old Myspace account to talk to her ex-boyfriend. They were talking about moving in with each other and taking my son from me. And that they loved each other, Also that they were meeting up.
Now, I got mad. So I brought the computer in and comfronted her about it. She got so mad she left to go to her moms. I kept the child because the police would not take him out of the home. She got mad and stayed. Then that night ( Keep in mind through all this everyday she would be happy and loving to me) she cried to me saying they are just friends and she wanted to talk it out and work on our marriage and problems. Well, She wont talk about it. She goes to her moms, And I let our son go with her. She said she would come home in a couple of days. So I said okay go take some time. Think about things. Well, Now she will not talk to me, Blocked me off the internet. Only texts me rarely. Mostly when I ask about our son. Then when I go over to get our son (Shes been gone 5 days now) I will ask her when she wants to talk about this, And she will give me a date or time And hug an kiss me and tell me she loves me.
However, Everytime that time comes to talk she will make up an excuse and lie to me constantly. Even her mom is now lying for her. She told my mom she was confused and needed help. But now everyone that tries to help her she will block them out of her life. I seen her exs car in their driveway and I went to see if she was home and said it was her little sisters friend. (Which is 13) And I already knew who it was cause I seen him. Now she is acting like a teenager, An is not thinking of her son. When I have him she wont text or call not even to see how he is doing. When she has him I call or text every couple of hours to see how he is doing. She turned into a completely different person. Now I believe she is filing for divorse and custody but I am not 100% sure. I have tried everything to fix this. Litterally everything. But it seems she doesnt care. I offered marriage couseling but she said she doesnt want to talk to someone. I love her with all my heart and miss her at home. Is there anyone that can give me some advice on how I can get her in the right state of mind??? I have Ohio laws. Thanks.