hi,i am 24...i have a 10-year relationship with my first boyfriend,24 yrs old..he is loving, caring and understanding..i am a college teacher,and he is a seaman..on this long term relationship, we were not yet ready to get married due to the fact that he still want to help his parents..we are not yet ready financially....now, we are having long distance relationship..this is his second time to be away from me because he worked outside the country..on the first time he left for abroad,we maintained good communication..he always sent emails or calls..but this time (the second time he left for work),i could not receive any emails from him (specifically on the first few months)..not like the first time (he left),he rarely sends me email...i hate long distance relationship...!
until, this time came when i met someone...my student, 26 yrs old..both his parents died at his early age..he just graduated college recently...he is much attractive than my first boyfriend.. we share the same interests..he cooks for me,he is sweet,he is hardworking...however, he already had 2 kids from different women but not married to any of them..we are now on our 7-month relationship..i love him so much...i also loved my first boyfriend..Now,he is seeking for a job in the city.
i heard that my first boyfriend is coming home,and i still don't have the decision who to let go...i loved them both that (you may call me selfish) i could not afford to lose them..Which is which?..who is who?..please,i need an advice...i am very much confused right now.
You need to separate from both of them. Mark a calendar a year out and forget about relationships for that year. Figure yourself out then proceed in finding the partner you want. Right now you don't know what you want. Only time, without a relationship clouding the issues, can get you to a place where you can find a person who fits your needs and whose needs you fit.
If you have been intimate with your student while being with your first boyfriend, make sure the first boyfriend is told and gets tested for stds.
In addition, you are probably ripe for firing at your institution because you have had inappropriate contact with a student. Where is your integrity?
Also a man who has children with several different women is certainly a keeper, so what if he is has to pay child support for the next 18 years and needs to be a father to these children. This shows his integrity as he has taken the responsibility for fathering children out of wedlock. As stated above I would rush him down to the courthouse and get married today. What would be the downside of this because you have stated you truly love him?