Well I wanted to start a thread based to give example of the stories and the lies that are told to the BS and then the truth that came out.
The lie
We are just friends and we just talk and he just gets me.
the truth
Found A Facebook conversation she had with another OM where she lead him on to the point to where he sent her a naked picture. Found out she texted with the same OM from the face book incident a year later for nearly a month despite agreeing not to talk to him ever again.
Found out she was contacting another OM only during the times when I was not around, talking to the OM rather than getting sleep, talking to the OM while she was at work and telling me she was too busy to talk at work.
Found out that the meeting I agreed my wife could meet the 2nd OM was a secret to the OMW and that he was avoiding being seen with my wife. Discovered phone records showing my wife was talking to the 2nd OM for over a hour every day.
please use this format. I think if we get enough stories that some of the BS's might start seeing how similar a story is to there own situation. please try to keep it as short as possible. This is a thread for the lie's the WS told and the Truth that it ended up being.
It was a friendship that turned into an emotional affair over the last 5 months or so. I've never even kissed him.
The truth:
It was a two year, EA/PA that included unfathomable sexual debauchery and sharing of our martial secrets. She wanted it to be an exit affair but he wouldn't leave his wife.
I'm going to see my friend. Won't be back until late.
The Truth
I might be seeing my friend, or might be waiting in a supermarket car park for the OM to text me. Later we will be having sex at his house. Oh, I was there earlier too when you were at work.
The Lie
We always used a condom
The Truth
Despite me not going on the pill for my husband and being terrified of STDs - AIDS in particular - we didn't and I went on the pill for him.
I had a horrible headache when I went home from work, so I immediately fell asleep on the couch and did not wake up until around 2am when a neighbor's house alarm went off and it took forever for it to stop. I have been up since then. I feel awful from lack of sleep.
TRUTH
One of my scum friends had a birthday party. I went to it with my wh0re. Although what I did was horrible, I want you to give me sympathy so I don't have so much guilt, so I will lie about the headache and house alarm keeping me awake. I was out all night partying and I am really suffering from a hangover. D@mn that friend for posting his detailed birthday party information on Facebook. Especially the part that said .... In attendance were blah, blah, Mr. Salt and "the girlfriend" (yes, it actually said "girlfriend") of Mr. Salt.
I wake up at 3 am..see light through our bedroom door, walk out..no one is there, see two cell phones sitting on the kitchen table. I run outside with my car keys in hand in the pouring rain, unlock my car. She pulls up with H in the passenger seat...
LIE
We just went for a car ride so that I could cool down. You went to sleep and I needed to talk to someone about our fighting lately..
TRUTH
You aren't the reason we're fighting. Once you went to bed me and your friend decided to leave the house in her car, go out into the middle of a field and do the dirty while you are sleeping in our bed all snug as a bug in a rug.
The lie; "We only spoke on the phone to each other once or twice..."
The truth; I went through phone records, they spoke on the phone pretty much EVERYDAY, had video chat (amongst other sexual related things) EVERY Saturday, even past dday, when again he lied about them 'not talking' to each other....
Another;
The lie; "I didn't talk to her for over 2weeks after our new babies were born"
The truth; she was the first person he called and sent pictures of our babies to her, within an hr of them being born... He never stopped talking/texting/sexting to her...
Another;
The lie; "Honey, you can't keep calling me during work, I'm getting in the sh!t for it" he said this while his boss was in the car, I found it odd as I didn't really bother him during work hours...
The truth; he was using me as a scapegoat, pretending I was the one who he was calling and taking calls from, BUT it was HER!
I've got WAY too many lies, but u did ask to keep it short :-/ Posted via Mobile Device
THE LIE:
On the way back to college while you were competing across the country I just went to see him to say Goodbye so that he knew it was over.
THE TRUTH:
I got naked with him the minute I stopped in his apartment, Yes he cheated on me in the past was a drug using loser, but what the heck you would never find out about it.
THE LIE:
I only linked up with her after you filed the divorce (Told to me, to the pastor & his wife, to the Christian Psychologist/Marriage Counselor)
THE TRUTH:
Found the phone bills detailing the calls to her number during the last 5 years prior to the divorce filing.
THE LIE:
I never touched her, visited her, spent money on her, was near her ever, in those 7 years after she gave me her number, even after the divorce, although she offered me phone sex, which I entertained "by phone only", despite the 8K miles on your car in those 2 months.
THE TRUTH:
Uh-Huh
THE LIE:
When she was doing phone sex with me, I had a hard on because I was thinking of you.
THE LIE:
I only linked up with her after you filed the divorce (Told to me, to the pastor & his wife, to the Christian Psychologist/Marriage Counselor)
THE TRUTH:
Found the phone bills detailing the calls to her number during the last 5 years prior to the divorce filing.
THE LIE:
I never touched her, visited her, spent money on her, was near her ever, in those 7 years after she gave me her number, even after the divorce, although she offered me phone sex, which I entertained "by phone only", despite the 8K miles on your car in those 2 months.
THE TRUTH:
Uh-Huh
THE LIE: When she was doing phone sex with me, I had a hard on because I was thinking of you.
The truth: I love myself... and porn... and strippers... and hiding money from you... and racking up thousands of dollars of debt behind your back so I can buy expensive things to impress other people, like my OWs and strippers... and my OWs... and treating you like a piece of garbage because the "nice" side of me has been spent up on the OWs...
Ohh, I could go on... and on... and on.......................
I feel a little awkward as I never got a lie. Just the horrible, unvarnished, somewhat ugly truth. I am shaking my head as I type this. My God! Did that really all happen to me? Yes, it did.
Would I have been more comfortable with the lies some of you got? On balance, having thought about it, no, I don't think I would have.
The Lie: You are making too much out of this. You are WAY over reacting.
The Truth: I have been having an ongoing EA/PA with her for years now and everybody knows about it but you.
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