Total relationship length: 4.5 years
Married less than a year.
After about a year of marriage, she announced she wanted out. Unhappy, etc. Found out she had be involved in at least a EA with a MM in a different state. Had been going on prior to me proposing and all thru the marriage. Divorce was final in Dec 12. Only married for that short year. I treated her great, but apparently she couldn't control herself.
I haven't had communication with her since January. Just the other day, out of the blue she emails that she's going to be in town and wants to know if I want to get dinner.
I know she's still in contact with MM. I doubt she wants to get back together, nor would I.
My brain says: F her! No dinner. She can rot in hell.
My heart says: I still love her and see this as a possiblity to get some answers of which I never got.
I basically found out all this thru her cell phone and all the calling going on through the past two years to MM. She even emailed him on our honeymoon how much she missed him.
She rug swept him of course and said JUST FRIENDs. I'm not an idiot.
You claim to still be in love with her. For this reason I recommend you don't go.
In your emotional state you're liable to fall for any sad story she gives you - probably wants free legal advice - and elicit the white knight syndrome you seem to have.
Just told my female cousin about ex contacting me. Cousin was always close with her. She just now informs me that not too long ago ex contacted her to inquire how the family was doing. I haven't gotten more details yet.
Somewhat upset with cousin in that she never told me. Posted via Mobile Device
She wants to know that she still has the ability to make you pine away for her. This is just ego for her. She humiliates you, disrespects you and cheats on you and invites you to dinner to see if she still has a hold on you.
I would respond that the woman I am currently seeing would not appreciate it so good-bye.
If i were you i'd set up a meeting with her in a dark alley or smwhere similar and pay a couple of thugs to work her over. Granted i wouldn't get any answers but i'd get a lot of satisfaction.
Going to be in town in a few weeks and wondered if you'd be interested in dinner one night. Absolutely no pressure either way. Let me know. I hope you're doing well.
Pos exwife.
I haven't responded and its been 4 days. Posted via Mobile Device
My brain says: F her! No dinner. She can rot in hell.
My heart says: I still love her and see this as a possiblity to get some answers of which I never got.
You still have feelings for her. Ask her why. If it's not to apologize and tell you what really happened then the best you can hope for is reopening your wounds.
Simply ignore the email.
Closure comes from within, very rarely from others. Specially from someone like your unrepetant, clueless, unempathetic, piece of it of this XW of yours.
Closure will come when you start banging prettier women than her.
I'd start precisely that night.
Going to be in town in a few weeks and wondered if you'd be interested in dinner one night. Absolutely no pressure either way. Let me know. I hope you're doing well.
OK don't ignore it. Tell her you are not interested.
You really need to cut all ties with her. Get her out of your mind.
Nothing good for you will come of this. She lied before and during your marriage. What makes you think she is going to tell you any thing that resembles truth now?
Thing is is that I am somewhat dating someone. I don't want to jeopardize that either.
Just curious as to what she has to say. Part of me wants to hear how miserable she is albeit I know that's probably not coming. Posted via Mobile Device
Starbucks or Dunkin Donuts are good ideas. Or confuse her, keep her off balance. Is there a traditional English tea shop style place? Take her for what is called High Tea, in the late afternoon.
Why would she reveal that to you? She won't. She will be there looking the best she's looked in forever (at least in your eyes) and at the end of the night, you'll be there holding your d!ck in your hand.
You are dating someone.
She is fishing.
So unless she is offering a) an expensive dinner and b) some reason for you to attend and potentially disrespect your current girlfriend, I'd say no thanks
She had better come up with something you want too.
Sounds like you're going despite great advice to the contrary.
Tell your dating partner that your exwife is in town and she wants to speak with you. You're curious what she has to say, it's going to be short and to the point and that will be it.
Don't make it dinner. Dinner implies something more than just a casual meeting.
I want to say don't go, but I know me and I would go! All I can say, is curiosity killed the cat, BUT satisfaction brought him back! IF you go, be sure to walk away with something satisfying from the experience. (ie: Answers! (not sex or an STD)
I'm leaning towards not going. I know I'd never take her back regardless of whatever sob story she has. She'd never be accepted by my family and friends anyway.
Right now I'm tho king about an email like this:
Unless you have something you want to tell me or need to say, I'm not interested. I'm at a better place right now. Posted via Mobile Device
I'd leave it at this, short and to the point. As a rule don't mention person feelings one way or another.
This is your opportunity to reject her for once, dollars to donuts she is sweating out your response. Don't buy the casual way she worded her message, she probably spent a lot of time wording it just right.
You'd send a even stronger message by ignoring it like she's not worth it. This is how you turn the tables on them.
If you do see her, I wouldn't show her any respect.
I am not hell bent on seeing her. I'm very mixed on which way to go on this hence my posting on this site. Posted via Mobile Device
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