09-15-2009, 03:02 PM
Join Date: Sep 2009
| | Am I overreacting.. or is this over?
Like the slew of others on here, this is my story, and I am hoping I can get some advice.
I have been dating my girl friend for just about 2 years. This is our situation:
Last year, she was at the club, and kissed several guys. I unfortunatly found out not from her, but a friend. She claimed she was drunk and foolish, and pleaded for me not to leave her. We broke up for a week or so I guess, then I took her back.
About a month later, I met a girl. In an act of selfishness, I cheated on her with this girl. We saw each other for a week or so, and were sexually intimate. I did not enjoy the sexual encounters, but I did it to spite my girlfriend. I of course regretted it after.
My I also saw my ex during this time, and we had oen sexual encounter as well.
I told my girlfriend after a couple weeks I had been doing this. She broke down, and broke up with me.
After a couple weeks, she took me back.
Now fast forward about a year later, to now. She just told me she went on a date with a guy, and kissed him. I broke up with her, and then the next night she saw him again while we were broken up. She then confessed this to me too. I said to her, "we break up and then you see him right away?" She claims he is a rebound - to take her pain away if we do not fix this.
She has pleaded with me to take her back. She states her reasons are that she just has not been in long relationships, testedt he waters to say- and that she felt he gave her attention I didn't give her. She has had several more sexual encounters than me, but no serious relationships, though I have had considerably longer, serious ones. I am her first serious relationship, I also wonder if she is just unsure to commit.
I ask for advice to people here, should I forgive her? Can I trust her? I know I am a fool to have cheated to get her back, but does this mak her cheating again justified? Are we both stupid-so I shoudl forgive her? or is this doomed now as we are both never to trust each other?
Any input would be great.. thank you so much.