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Old 11-06-2009, 09:22 AM   #1 (permalink)
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Hi. I'm hoping talking about this will help me get through it. I was seeing a man for the past year, I fell in love with him like I've never loved anyone before, he was an amazing person, strong, responsible, a wonderful father, an amazing lover & friend... We had made planns to move in together & combine our families. He has three beautiful children & i have one. I was ready to spend the rest of my life with this man.
I recent found out that back in March he met a girl, & I say girl because she is 20yrs old, (he is 35) who he began a relationship with on the side.
In August of this year we took all the kids & his mom & went on a family vacation for a week. He was distant & rude & I couldn't understand why. After we came home he stopped calling me, & i found out his kids were with their grandma for a week & he didn't tell me. During this week I went down to get some things from his house & found all the doors lock, both his vehicles in the drive & through the kitchen door window i could see piles of clothing, women's shoes, pants, & underwear beside his shorts, shoes & softball jersey. I was histerical & tried to get in I called his phone & he didnt' answer. I didnt' hear from him until the next day & he came up with a story that he wasn't there & it was his friend's girl & his friend's cloths. I wanted so bad to believe him so i did. But we've been rocky since breaking up for about a month & a half & recently he started calling me again tellling me he still loves me & can't live without me & wants me to come back & live with him.
So I started talking to him again & the other night stayed with him @ his house & i found his phone & curiousity got the best of me & i found txtz from this girl. She said she loved him & she talk about the sex they had & how they were when he was still dating me. I got in contact with her & she confirmed my story. She told me they'd been seeing each other since March.
I feel sooo stupid & sick to my stomach. I'm a good person & I truely believe people to be genuinely good & I've never had this kind of thing happen to me. I dont 'know how i'll ever trust another man & I'm still so in love with this disgusting man. It's a hurt unlike any other & I wish it would just go away. How can I learn to get past this. I can't seem to forgive myself for being so naive & trusting.
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Old 11-07-2009, 12:03 PM   #2 (permalink)
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You are not alone.... not alone at all. I wish I had some decent advise for you, but I'm in the same boat...still....and I'm at the one year post affair mark. My only advise is definitly DO NOT get back together with him or stay with him. As much as you love him, he IS NOT WORTH IT!!!!! I have just come to this determination in my own situation, unfortunantly we are married and have a child together. Good Luck.
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