I need help!

lovebug82 · 11-11-2009, 04:06 PM

I have been with my now husband for 10 yrs. we just got married on april 2009....we have never broke up once we own a condo together for the last 3 yrs...We decided in september that we cant wait to start a family and since started trying. now that we are married. i went away with my mother for the night...and he hung out with his best man from the wedding!...well that was friday on monday he starts sayin he has to tell me something bad and i instatly got that feeling like i was punched in the chest....well he told me he cheated it was a girl that he never met before this night no chemisty just stritcly sex they wernt even naked he says...he says it was someone his friend knows and called to come over his friend was a big influence on him......anyway he said he did it but was soo sick with himself he through her off and ran out the house....reguardless that he didnt like it he still went through with it and he did fell soo guilty i was sooo very shocked that my husband my love my best friend since 16 did this too me...we even had sex friday morni for a quickie before work since i was goin to be away that night.......and this is wut he did .well he has been beging my forgiveness ever since and he has been histerical thinking he might lose me...i always said i would leave someone if this ever happend i would leave them ASAP!!! but it is hardd to do .....he told me he would never cheat on me...we had such a SOLID TRUSTING relationship and were always honest and even though he is still be honest he did the worst thing ever to me.....please help i am sooo confused and have NO ONE to talk to cause i am sooo embaressed that this happend to me!!!!!

dobo · 11-12-2009, 09:22 AM

You need to get over the embarassment because you did nothing wrong. If you have a GOOD FRIEND to talk to, someone you can trust to uphold your confidence, you need support right now. If you are alone you may make the wrong decision.

I'm sorry your husband was so foolish.

BTW, no unprotected sex with him until he gets tested for STDs. I don't care if he says he used protection.

AND

NO BABIES.

It will not fix things and will only make things worse.

lovebug82 · 11-12-2009, 11:12 AM

dorry i just read ur actual message im so new with this im reading them backwords.....thanks again he just went today to get tested with a full check up he hasnt eaten in days and i fell so bad for him but at the same time i dont cause it is all his fault he feels this way....im too much like mothergoose i always wana take care of the ones i love no matter what and for the first time i dont know if "no matter what" might not ...all my friends and family will prob say to leave him so im not ready for that kind of "peer pressure".....thanks for letting me get this out!

lovebug82 · 01-07-2010, 10:00 PM

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Originally Posted by lovebug82

I have been with my now husband for 10 yrs. we just got married on april 2009....we have never broke up once we own a condo together for the last 3 yrs...We decided in september that we cant wait to start a family and since started trying. now that we are married. i went away with my mother for the night...and he hung out with his best man from the wedding!...well that was friday on monday he starts sayin he has to tell me something bad and i instatly got that feeling like i was punched in the chest....well he told me he cheated it was a girl that he never met before this night no chemisty just stritcly sex they wernt even naked he says...he says it was someone his friend knows and called to come over his friend was a big influence on him......anyway he said he did it but was soo sick with himself he through her off and ran out the house....reguardless that he didnt like it he still went through with it and he did fell soo guilty i was sooo very shocked that my husband my love my best friend since 16 did this too me...we even had sex friday morni for a quickie before work since i was goin to be away that night.......and this is wut he did .well he has been beging my forgiveness ever since and he has been histerical thinking he might lose me...i always said i would leave someone if this ever happend i would leave them ASAP!!! but it is hardd to do .....he told me he would never cheat on me...we had such a SOLID TRUSTING relationship and were always honest and even though he is still be honest he did the worst thing ever to me.....please help i am sooo confused and have NO ONE to talk to cause i am sooo embaressed that this happend to me!!!!!

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