06-28-2013, 03:52 PM
Join Date: Jul 2012
| | Re: Tell the other woman!
Originally Posted by 2yearsago
Hi everyone, I am new to this forum. I am wrestling with something and would like feedback on whether what I am comtemplating is the right thing to do or just vindictive.
Almost 2 years ago my wife had an affair. It was on/off for at least 6 months. I caught it 4X. To this day she claims it was an emotional(EA) affair. I don't have direct evidence it was physical but I saw emails that strongly suggested the physical part. Since the affair I have held on but close to the end of my rope with the marriage(just had 20 year anniversary). This is mainly due to the fact that she has given little effort to try to improve our marriage. Of course she blamed the state of our marriage as the reason(blame shifting) for having the affair.
I tried confronting the other man several times but he always hid from me. My question is this: For a while now I have thought about contacting his girlfriend of 12 years(and mother of their 2 children) about the affair. I feel she should know the type of person she has her wagon hooked up to. What kind of a role model he is going to be for their children. I've asked myself if I am being vindictive. And sometimes I think "so what?". But I also know if it was me I would want to know.
Thoughts and experiences are welcome. Thank you in advance.
Friend, it would appear you need more advice on dealing with your wife's lack of remorse than you do on exposing the POSOM.
Of course you expose him! Better late than never. Case closed. And if you didn't expose to her family and your family, that can be corrected too.
Then, when you're ready to talk about your apparent false R with her, we're here.