Lets hear it for the faithful men out there!
I am female married a decade have never cheated
No EA no PA had chances but that told me what kind
of man I was dealing with, slapped them down and took pride
In defending my stbx's honor when he was not there to do it
He never cared or appreciated that about me.
For me I think I know problems in my self that attracted and keept me with stbx WH
are something that I need to fix in myself so it does not happen again.
I certainty understand the anxiety.
Look up Freud's "Repetition Compulsion"
Or Cognitive " Maladaptive schema"
We are not at fault for what others do and we can not predict or control them.
But we can do our darn best, not staying for the wrong reason or attracting them
because of something on our end.
To me these kinds of things help take some if the mystery out and put the ball back in your court.
Book I like is called "Enough dam it" by Karen Salmansohn fun book it's all about fearing the same thing happing again in your life
and why it happens.
Other is more indepth called "emotional alchemy" by Tara Bennett-Goleman available on audio book for iPhone. Posted via Mobile Device