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Old 07-09-2013, 07:55 PM   #1 (permalink)
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I have other threads here with many details of many red flags and of coarse, my wife completely denies anything is going on. I have yet to find any evidence that she can't deny. She does have one girlfriend that she texts a lot. And I don't trust this one at all. She's a toxic friend.

Here's the question: If a wife was working on the other side of the country for 3 months, being pretty much the only woman working with 20 to 30 men, has a flirty personality and you find the following text in an SMS backup file, what would you think?

"Wake up! Live the moment in all your glory with all those men. Be the queen bee!!"

I know context means a lot, but I couldn't find associated texts to tie in. This text was deleted, as my wife deletes everything. I don't know whether this friend is encouraging her to flirt, fvck or what. I think the worst though.

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Um, she's a cheat?
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NAWWWW, no big flag for me.
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I have other threads here with many details of many red flags and of coarse, my wife completely denies anything is going on. I have yet to find any evidence that she can't deny. She does have one girlfriend that she texts a lot. And I don't trust this one at all. She's a toxic friend.

Here's the question: If a wife was working on the other side of the country for 3 months, being pretty much the only woman working with 20 to 30 men, has a flirty personality and you find the following text in an SMS backup file, what would you think?

"Wake up! Live the moment in all your glory with all those men. Be the queen bee!!"

I know context means a lot, but I couldn't find associated texts to tie in. This text was deleted, as my wife deletes everything. I don't know whether this friend is encouraging her to flirt, fvck or what. I think the worst though.
Well I'd say that's pretty clear
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I have other threads here with many details of many red flags and of coarse, my wife completely denies anything is going on. I have yet to find any evidence that she can't deny. She does have one girlfriend that she texts a lot. And I don't trust this one at all. She's a toxic friend.

Here's the question: If a wife was working on the other side of the country for 3 months, being pretty much the only woman working with 20 to 30 men, has a flirty personality and you find the following text in an SMS backup file, what would you think?

"Wake up! Live the moment in all your glory with all those men. Be the queen bee!!"
I wouldn't say that's a red flag, that's a funny joke. :-)
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I have other threads here with many details of many red flags and of coarse, my wife completely denies anything is going on. I have yet to find any evidence that she can't deny. She does have one girlfriend that she texts a lot. And I don't trust this one at all. She's a toxic friend.

Here's the question: If a wife was working on the other side of the country for 3 months, being pretty much the only woman working with 20 to 30 men, has a flirty personality and you find the following text in an SMS backup file, what would you think?

"Wake up! Live the moment in all your glory with all those men. Be the queen bee!!"

I know context means a lot, but I couldn't find associated texts to tie in. This text was deleted, as my wife deletes everything. I don't know whether this friend is encouraging her to flirt, fvck or what. I think the worst though.
The queen bee leaves the hive followed by all the males at mating time to mate with the strongest. How many ways can you interpret this. Sounds like your wife has at least been hesitating and her friend is encouraging her to leap.

I would text my wife and ask her if her wh*re friend is trying to encourage her to play the field like a little birdy told me.
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I would think, " why in the hell is my wife hidding text by deleting them" then I would think " who in the hell is meeting my wifes needs when we have been apart for so long", Then I would say to my self "why haven't I hire a PI in that area to validate my wifes commitment".........
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Have you seen your wife in the three months? How long has she been gone? Is the toxic friend married?
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The queen bee leaves the hive followed by all the males at mating time to mate with the strongest. How many ways can you interpret this. Sounds like your wife has at least been hesitating and her friend is encouraging her to leap.

I would text my wife and ask her if her wh*re friend is trying to encourage her to play the field like a little birdy told me.
Sounds like fun.

If she doesn't squash this immediately you gotta drop her. That is a serious world of pain that most of us cannot fanthom.
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Have you asked your wife? If she always has denied anything, I would ask her to take a polygraph.
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polygraph, var? now and insist on it or else

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Have you seen your wife in the three months? How long has she been gone? Is the toxic friend married?
Yes, the wife has been back for 5 weeks now. One of the guys at work, Joe, is married but felt the need to text her on the 4th just like he did last year on the 4th, Thanksgiving and Christmas. So I decided to look at her backup file. Joe's texts were gone but found the one mentioned. Toxic friend is single and desperately pursuing a guy that won't commit to anything.
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Have you asked your wife? If she always has denied anything, I would ask her to take a polygraph.
I asked her if she would take a poly, she said yes. She's been really attentive since then. When I add up all the red flags and details from my other posts, I can't believe she's NOT cheating.

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Polygraphs are how much? I'm guessing ~$1500?
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It might have been a joke. Telling her to Lord it over the guys. I hope it was a joke...
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