Join Date: Jan 2013
Location: some small town, USA
Re: His words & actions don't match
@flygirl, this is a mess! OW needs to go but he's made that hard to do...she could claim sexual harassment and sue him and the company.
I know where you're coming from because my H also runs the family business but his father is still employed. I am also not allowed to work there and have been ASAHM since 1992. He had a girl working for them that they promoted to a manager. She was young, attractive and flirty. She lavished attention on my H and he ate it up and even strutted around the other male employees like the king of the jungle. It got to the point that my FIL asked him what was going on between them so you can only guess what everyone else was thinking. I didn't know much about her but became concerned after hearing a VM from her to my H that was a little too friendly for employee and employer for me. He claimed nothing was going on, no EA or PA, just flirting.
Well she decided that they should have a company Xmas party for all the divisions and she put herself in charge of it, how sweet. I went and introduced myself to her and said "you must be A, the work wife" in a smart ass tone. I observed the body language between the two of them and noticed her looking over to see where he was, and most of the time he was by my side. She seemed needy, like she wasn't getting enough attention from him.
The party was wrapping up and a few of us, including her, were going to a bar for a few drinks. She cornered my H in the office area when she thought they were alone, but my FIL and I walked in when she was asking him where this bar was. Now, I just heard someone tell her it was down the street where one of their friends worked and she said okay, so why the need to follow my H to ask him where it was??? They were around a corner by the exit and couldn't see me or my FIL and we just looked at each other like WTF.
We get to the bar and I sit, and watch, and listen. I had her figured out in less then an hour...she was a late bloomer who had now discovered the attention and the power she could have over men. She was indeed needy, seeking male attention. Although several female co-workers were with us, she spent 99% of the time engaged in conversations with the guys there, including my H. I also learned that she flirted with everyone, and I mean any guy she came in contact with (someone watched her flirt with the cleaning guy). I think in my H she saw a possible way up the ladder to a position of power in the company. After the party the VM toned back to a professional level and he put the brakes on the flirting. She has since been let go and my H vows to never employ any more females because if he does, I'm gone.