12-08-2009, 03:38 PM
Join Date: Feb 2009
| | someone explain this to me
My husband has been having an affair for 6 months now with a woman he works with. The OW is also married I found out when her husband came and told me of the affair.....
Anyway since then many discussions as to why we got to this place in our marriage, we take equal blame for the marriage part breaking down, he feels that he wants to explore the other relationship so we have decided to go our separate ways after the holidays, already have told our 2 grown sons.....
My question now is he seems very angry and is almost trying to be hurtful, why is he still doing this, I have accepted the fact that he wants out and he knows it's something that just doesn't sit right with me, so I'm setting him free and now he seems mad.
This is very hard on me to have even gotten to this place, it almost seems like he is the one that can't accept his decision now, the OW is already now separated from her husband. Don't understand his angry disposition now and he is going to make the holidays tough for everyone if he keeps this up, we have decided to go ahead with the family get together and then on New Year's day tell our families that we are going to call it quits, we have been married 22 years, together 25....he has asked me if I would still be around if things don't work out with the OW I said no, I wasn't playing 2nd fiddle to anyone and if he chose her I was gone....is this why he is mad? anyone else experience anything like this, by the way he still maintains she is who he wants......confusing at times.......thanks for your thoughts