someone hand cheewa a shovel...he keeps digging himself deeper into this hole
I don't understand. What am I doing wrong this time???? I thought everything seems cleared up with "C" and "M"? I can be friends with "C" and be with "M". It's a win-win, isn't it??
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I don't understand. What am I doing wrong this time???? I thought everything seems cleared up with "C" and "M"? I can be friends with "C" and be with "M". It's a win-win, isn't it??
I don't understand. What am I doing wrong this time???? I thought everything seems cleared up with "C" and "M"? I can be friends with "C" and be with "M". It's a win-win, isn't it??
My post was in reference to these:
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Originally Posted by cheewagacheewaga
I know I'm generalizing, and in some ways, if you find offense to it, then that's good! It shows that you aren't the typical American, and that you work hard. Being a minority, I have experienced prejudice and humiliation because I was not white. But it's something I do not want to get into. Lets just say I enjoy being in the Bay Area because of the ethnic diversity and tolerance, although you can never completely avoid it.
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Originally Posted by voivod
come on!!! the typical american doesn't work hard???
Sounds like you have the dating situation well under control
It's not so much that Americans are absolutely lazy, but there is this work ethic that Americans have that I just don't understand. I suspect it comes from the broken public education system, or the fact that there are a lot of single parents now who do not care for their children as they should. Or maybe it's too much TV time for Americans. Anyhow, I digress from my original post of 2 women taking me out and me ending up with neither one of them.
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It's not so much that Americans are absolutely lazy, but there is this work ethic that Americans have that I just don't understand. I suspect it comes from the broken public education system, or the fact that there are a lot of single parents now who do not care for their children as they should. Or maybe it's too much TV time for Americans. Anyhow, I digress from my original post of 2 women taking me out and me ending up with neither one of them.
we probably seem lazy compared to our past, when we were building the greatest society this planet has ever known, where a person can come from any oppressed background and become a success. building that was pretty hard work.
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separated, honoring wife and family daily, she deserves the best me i can give her.
I also don't see much heart or dedication into the work anymore. It is just half-ass work. People aren't loyal and helpful to the well-being of the company anymore. But then again, companies have been screwing over people, too!
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I've been with my company over 1.5 years and well past due for a raise (and have the performance marks to demonstrate that! My boss argued strongly that I should get one!). This year, "due to the economy", all admin personel will not be getting a raise. I'm considered admin (meaning salaried).
sigh... At least I have a job and for that I'm thankful.
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Anyone read that new Malcom Gladwell book, Outliers? I am almost finished reading it, but he makes an interesting point about how Asians are one of the hardest working people, and hence why they are good at math, and I would personally stretch that to academics, science, and work ethics. None of this has anything to do with genetics or biological superiority. Gladwell talks about how it is because of their culture (growing rice) and language. Gladwell even goes to show that the English language is a big disadvantage when it comes to math. Somehow counting numbers in English does not make sense to young children. VERY FASCINATING!!! But don't worry people, being smart isn't a guarantee in life. Check out the book!
Chew, I made it through all 10 pages of this one, I didn't read every iota, but soaked in enough to see where you are at, what your dilema is and I'm going to offer some help.
along the work ethic tangent, I'm a business owner, the likes of which, I doubt a 9-5er could ever relate to me along work ethics, and trust me on this one, the last person I had in my shop was having a very difficult time keeping up with me and he was x army ranger, a literal tough combat soldier and I was only giving him light duty....
The one thing you must develop is knowing just this, and this alone, attitude is everything, absolutely everything, with it you can move mountains, and it's that confidence they will see that matters most. I can get the women that want power, money, looks, etc. those are easy, what I want is not that at all, and unfortunatly it's becoming more rare to find quality women that do not play games, that tell it to you straight and you are able to just be yourself, speak your mind and they do the same.
You are trying to figure out a game they are playing, a set of unwritten rules, and code of conduct they have created and this is not only a childish set of rules and code, it's utterly ridicoules that we guys put up with them, yet we all too often do. I have my own mess to deal with in this area, thinking I found one, but time is going to tell here, my options in this area are piling up day by day and it's because of what I am, what I have on my plate, and you know what, I'm still a total nice guy to boot.
Original scenereo, those women really seemed to be threesome material, their motives could be anywhere from knowing you will give you all to pleasure them, ie. be a boy toy, to they were feeling sorry for you and were offering you some pity recreation to help boost your ego and get you on the right track, or they may have just out right have been playing a sick game to see which one you will try to go for, for that would be the winner and the game would be ended.
It's now too late for the original scenereo, they know now that what you are looking for is something with deeper meaning, and it sounds like the one you picked isn't looking for that at all, or isn't capable of it. I'd be pissed about that one getting kissed upon at the party, it was a good thing you left, even better you didn't answer the phone, it shows you have standards for yourself and she crossed a line there.
Your ideal is rare to find in American women these days, we have an entire globe of women that would be utterly grateful to have a nice guy like you.
I assume you did get your skin problems fixed, if not, make that first priority, second being your career, third, the dates will happen automatically. It's funny how it works, when you aren't looking, that is when they show up, even tonight, I had someone ask me if I had a girlfriend, at my very residence, lol.
Something that's going to floor you, women are more insecure then us guys, so much more then you can imagine. Stuff we dont' even notice, they obsess over, and believe me, a kind word contrary to stuff they are worried about makes a world of difference to them. If you can keep this in mind, you are going to be much less nervous. I can use examples, such as how much pain, time, and utter obsession they go over, just taking care of simply eyebrows. Can you imagine a guy putting that much effort into simple facial growth like that? It's stupid, I know, but it's just how they are.
Those two "banned" chicks that were giving you advice, take note, they are banned, the advice they were giving is how to appease a bi-tch, you clearly are looking for someone of quality, not someone of attitude, this is why they were so harsh on you, this is also why their advice only works on other women in their caliber, of which should have no place in your life, for clearly you want something more.
Good luck, and never cut yourself down again, that's the worse thing you can do, be your own best friend, not your own worse enemy.
Re: 2 girls taking me out - boy toy???
I thought everything seems cleared up with "C" and "M"? I can be friends with "C" and be with "M". It's a win-win, isn't it??
At least I have a job and for that I'm thankful.
