So this is a weird situation and I have no idea what to make of it.
Since I got a promotion and a new job at work, I asked out 2 former co-workers to celebrate. They are both beautiful ladies that I had worked professionally with. One is a superior, and one is a peer of mine in terms of classification.
So we go out, grab dinner and drinks. Turns out they are really good friends and very flirty. They started to be playful with me. I like one of them (the peer of mine) and she flirts with me, I think. For example, she'll rub my face or my hair. This girl, in general, is very giggly and energetic. She isn't shy about laughing and grabbing my arm or my thighs when we're sitting down having a drink.
They both invited me out and asked me to go partying and drinking with them again. They made it sound like we're this trio pack. What am I to make of this? It's like we worked professionally, but now that I don't work with them, they let their fun side come out on me and I am a little shocked by it. They even warned me about how wild they can get during the evening. Am I just a boy toy, or do they like me, or am I just a friend, or do they think I'm gay?!?!?
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You mentioned promotion...I automatically WOULD have assumed you raised above them,and they wanted to suck up to you! LOL
Being that one is still over you, of course, this wouldn't be the case...
But, to tell you the truth... I think theses girls are kinda...Um...weird! I've seen their kind... They aren't serious about relationships like you are...
I'd be careful. Don't let your attraction to the one blind you as to what might be going on with her.
Can I ask how old are they roughly; In their mis to late 20's, or 30's
I'm sorry to say, but I've met a looooot of nasty young women during my working years...
freeshias4m - the girl I like and is flirty (toughy-feely) to me is 26. I am 28. The superior one above me is 38. The thing is that these girls are SMART. The one that is 38 has a Ph.D. and is a professor. The one that is 26 has a Masters degree and is prepping up for medical school. Me, on the other hand, just have a bachelors in liberal arts degree. I really don't understand these women. They are a little too wild for my taste, and I get the sense that the two women are just competing amongst themselves to see who can be more wild. I feel like I'm in the middle of this and really don't want to get caught up in some weird games that women play.
draconis - I guess I'll enjoy it while I can, but I just wish I knew straight ahead. Do they just consider me a friend, a colleague, a boy toy, or a potential?
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Last edited by cheewagacheewaga; 10-03-2008 at 12:38 AM.
Well, imagine yourself naked with them - both of them. Does that sound like something you'd like to do? Go with the flow, dude. Don't push, but follow their lead and enjoy it. Heck, you might be one of the luckiest guys alive!
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It's nice to be wanted, it's a huge boost to anyone's self esteem. Just enjoy it and let it wash over you. If you want to spice it up a bit, try being a little bit coy, and playing slightly hard to get (but not too hard). When the time comes for it to end, as it surly will - wave it goodbye with good grace. You will have broadened your horizons in the process.
So this is a weird situation and I have no idea what to make of it.
Since I got a promotion and a new job at work, I asked out 2 former co-workers to celebrate. They are both beautiful ladies that I had worked professionally with. One is a superior, and one is a peer of mine in terms of classification.
So we go out, grab dinner and drinks. Turns out they are really good friends and very flirty. They started to be playful with me. I like one of them (the peer of mine) and she flirts with me, I think. For example, she'll rub my face or my hair. This girl, in general, is very giggly and energetic. She isn't shy about laughing and grabbing my arm or my thighs when we're sitting down having a drink.
They both invited me out and asked me to go partying and drinking with them again. They made it sound like we're this trio pack. What am I to make of this? It's like we worked professionally, but now that I don't work with them, they let their fun side come out on me and I am a little shocked by it. They even warned me about how wild they can get during the evening. Am I just a boy toy, or do they like me, or am I just a friend, or do they think I'm gay?!?!?
I don't think they would try to touch you or even try to flirt with you, if they thought you wasn't into girls. Hell, what do I know, I had both sex wanting me before.
See, that's the problem with me. I cannot read women or their signs. Every time I think I see a sign of interest, I am wrong and it turns out I am only their friend, and nothing more. Has happened to me SOOO many times that I'm sick of being that nice guy friend that gets shot down. The only sign I'll know if a woman is interested in me is if she jumps on top of me and starts ripping off her clothes. Somehow I must come across to women as really non-threatening and too honest, which I find offensive.
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See, that's the problem with me. I cannot read women or their signs. Every time I think I see a sign of interest, I am wrong and it turns out I am only their friend, and nothing more. Has happened to me SOOO many times that I'm sick of being that nice guy friend that gets shot down. The only sign I'll know if a woman is interested in me is if she jumps on top of me and starts ripping off her clothes. Somehow I must come across to women as really non-threatening and too honest, which I find offensive.
No, guy, don't change the good things about you. Some day you will find the right girl. One that will love the honest/ caring and non-threatening side of you. How on earth do you find that offensive, I'll never know.
I find it to be offensive because it hasn't really brought any positive results for me, at least the results I want in terms of taking it to a real relationship with a woman. To me, being non-threatening and too honest comes across as weak and effeminate. If these were good traits for a relationship, as you say, then I would have my pick of the ladies, but I don't. Instead I end up with a lot of female friends who see me as a nice guy male friend, like a boy toy. That's why I'm not sure what these 2 girls want from me. Do they like toying with me? I've only had 1 girlfriend, and that was back in high school when I pretended to be a bad boy skater guy. Now I'm 28 years old and truly being myself: a nerdy computer guy who loves to do introverted activities like golf, chess, and play the violin. I haven't had a date or a girlfriend since high school, and that was 10+ years ago!!! Something about me is wrong, and that much I know, since I'm the common denominator in all these failures. There are other things about me that I cannot change, or easily change, like my ethnicity, height, skin problems, and lack of money. I'm just trying to work with what I got and it's been very disappointing. So the only thing I can do is use my brain and move myself up in terms of career and money, and that's my #1 goal right now.
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2 girls taking me out - boy toy???
I really don't understand these women. They are a little too wild for my taste, and I get the sense that the two women are just competing amongst themselves to see who can be more wild. I feel like I'm in the middle of this and really don't want to get caught up in some weird games that women play. 
