trexy66

How early in a realtionship is it advisable to say I love you?Can you have an instant attraction?

cheewagacheewaga

Eh, when it feels right? That's the best answer I can give. But just remember: just because you feel something doesn't mean she feels the same way.

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loveandmarriage

I think definitely not when you first feel you maybe in love. It is best to really think about WHY you love the person because it possible that you might be getting caught up in the newness of it all.

A friend of mine once told me that a sure fire way to tell if you love someone is to see them when they first wake up and smell their morning breath, or when they are sick and you don't mind getting sick while aiding them to recovery, or after they have stunk up your bathroom. If you still have that "loving feeling" then it is probably love.

dcrim

Well, try it as: "I love the way you..." or "I love when you do..." or anything about them.

See if they reciprocate.

Then you can decide if "I love you" is ready to be spoken.

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justean

i think the same way - if its feels right . just say it. just remember it might not be said back. but atleast you said how you feel.

Honey

Don't say it unless you really mean it. Attraction is one thing, but those words are sometimes said, and the person doesn't really feel that way.

justean

but you might not know it, unless you say it. so its a catch 22.

Ashley

When you feel love then say it
if you feel fears to say it, are more important than speaking your love to someone, then what are you doing with that person?

Love should come first and shouldn't go by the brains' filter but come directly from the heart.

You say it when you feel it and feel to say it.

Waiting to be sure is an excuse some use to hidde that they are simply scared to look dumb, and also rather protect themselves than show some real feelings.

Thats how other get hurted too.

If you cannot say "I dont love you" because you know it isnt true, then say i love you!

Honey

I don't do things or say things unless I really mean it.
I can tell a friend love ya and give a hug, but to say I love you should have meaning to it. Not said to get what you want from people.


Do you think saying I love you too much is a bad thing and loses it meaning?

I don't think so, and I will say it a lot, but only if I truly know I love the person.

I know..shut up, Mel you make no sense at all.

I never like to hurt anyone, or lead anyone to believe there is more there than there is.

I will not say "I think I love you". It is either yeah I do, baby, or I love you only as I would a friend.

Ashley

If you know in your heart that you love the person then you should say it, without waiting.

And without trying to convince yourself that it is only friendhsip, just to make it rational, maybe if that love is surprising in anyway, or with someone you never thought you could be with, in that way.

Some people do it if it is someone from work, or someone they have known since long as friend. Then they have a difficult time admitting their love for the person.

I never understood why.

I didnt ment to say I love you to someone just to get your way and what you want, but to say it when you feel it.

I also think it is what trexy66 was asking about.

Mclovin84

My GF told me that she "really liked me alot" about 3 weeks after we meet and I knew then that she wanted to say love but didn't. I felt it too but waited for her to say it. She told me about 5 weeks into the relationship to tell me she loved me.

If it feels right then tell her.... just remeber that she may not feel the same way and could possible scare her.

Hope this helps.
Eric

Ashley

yes it is true too, not too early and not too late.. some wait two years and still cant do it.

swedish

I dated a guy who dropped the 'L' bomb after a few dates and it didn't scare me away but it should have...I later realized he didn't really have a handle on what that meant. It should have been 'I only want you dating me right now...till I meet someone better...then I will cheat on you and flip flop back and forth for months' Knowing that back then would have saved me a lot of emotional distress!

Ashley

i am sad to hear that..

But too early isnt good either. The 2 cant really know about it yet.

Again some wait too long and then they lose the person who beleive that he/she dont love Her/him..

I think to say it as it happen is important. As you feel it. Usualy if you love someone you know it, but many are scared of the feeling or of saying it, or of both.

I dont understand why. When you say I love you you dont say i love you for the rest of my life.
Its not lieke signing a contract of marriage or saying yes at church.
Its the feeling you have now.
It engage you into being loyal to your love and to the one you love but it shouldnt be taken as something as dramatic as many do.

freeshias4me

"If you cannot say "I dont love you" because you know it isnt true, then say i love you!"

I love that! It sounds so optimistic!