The ride has ended abrubtly, it's over, she sent me this stupid instant message when I was out and gave me the it's not you, it's me line. This is just before we were supposed to finally meet. I'm never, never, never going to even remotely have a LDR again, those are over, not a part of my life, and I'm going to define what I want clearly from the beginning in any I ever encounter in the future., What a waste of my time, money, and I did things nobody ever would expect, yet I was left cold.
Hope you guys are happy, you were right, I was wrong, this is my reward for being such a nice, understanding guy, thanks, thanks a lot.
What a waste of my time, money, and I did things nobody ever would expect, yet I was left cold.
Im sorry Guy. Everyone told me stuff about my H that i never listened to either, and i payed dearly also. its a live and learn process. just make sure you learn.
I guess we are back together, and I'm finding some interesting things in the process. She was thinking I was angry with her when clearly I was not, she mentioned this several times before and she was totally off base here, it takes a great deal to make my angry, especially with someone I care so deeply for. It feels like she had some past relationship with a guy that was overbearing, a control freak of sorts, and she is trying to project this onto me and interpret what I'm typing into that context, when clearly it should not. We had a long talk over the headset last night, this text chat thing should in theory be a thing of the past, clearly we both were reading more into what was said then what was there over it.
I'm also having second thoughts as to our compatiblity, I desire the complete picture, a more well rounded relationship, one that stimulates the heart "and" the mind, and it's the latter that we'll see unfold, good or bad, over the long haul, if we cannot talk, if we cannot laugh together, if we cannot talk about anything and everything and enjoy each others company, it won't work.
I'll keep moving forward on this, but I'm not going to let myself remain ignorant as to what's going on.
Final installment on this one. I got my sanity together, I realized she's never going to commit to this, that she's unwilling to finish what she started and I have been strung along the whole time, I indeed have been taken for a ride.
I am now thinking how she never respected my time, my position in life, what I'm responsible for, and at best, she just used me as a diversion. I'm kicking myself for being so loyal and not getting phone numbers to some local gals I ran into that clearly were showing interest, but I know there will be others soon enough.
Anyway, I reclaimed my life, I learned a few things in the process, and am now so beyond set for the dating scene, it's too funny. Time to go out and have some fun, time not to be tied down to some fictional relationship, time to start living life again the way it was meant to and most of all, time not to have to deal with someone's issues that cannot be worked out. Freedom, what a concept.
Just read your post man. Having a rough time huh? My wife and I purchased this really great book last week that helped us through some questions we had. Thought you might like it too
However, this sounds very junior high-ish....Not saying that the conversations haven't been deep and all.
If you have been conversing with this person for months...no picture, no cell/landline number, no address, no plans for meeting....it is going nowhere.
So you meet, in the future. Are you willing to relocate? Is she willing to relocate?
Re: Am I being taken for a ride?
