Ok so my ex girlfriend and I broke up last month, and it looks like there is no chance of getting back together(I have a post in general if you'd like more info. She told me that it is unhealthy to want her back and that for her I need to stop talking to her). Yes, I would take her back in a heartbeat and yes I still love her deeply...I don't think that will ever change. She wants me to move on, and for her I may try. My question is how soon should I start dating someone else? Honestly it's hard to even find women attractive anymore, and all I can really think about is her. Would it be wrong to date someone just to try to help move on? A part of me wants to just wait...and hope she will come back, but I realize that probably is insane. I dunno...any advice?
Last edited by iheartlamps; 01-13-2009 at 01:07 AM.
My advice would be to stay social..hang out with groups of friends of both sexes and just get used to being on your own for a while. Sitting home and feeling sad is not the answer, but jumping into something else for the purpose of moving on won't make you feel better...the more you put yourself out there socially, the better the chance you will meet someone that you feel a spark for...and when that happens, you will likely stop thinking about your ex.
I don't think dating will necessarily fix how you feel. It also isn't fair to the person you would be dating to just use them as a step to get over your ex. This is not to say dating isn't a good thing. However, you need to be ready for it. I do agree with swedish. Be social, hit the gym, put yourself in environments where you are exposed to having a good time with others. You'll heal and as that process occurs your eyes will start wondering. You'll start to notice women. You can't make yourself get over her. But, you can decide to take healthy steps in that direction. Don't press, let it happen. Oh, and do things for yourself, not for her! Its not being selfish, it is simply improving you and preparing for a better future. Best of luck
My advice would be to stay social..hang out with groups of friends of both sexes and just get used to being on your own for a while. Sitting home and feeling sad is not the answer, but jumping into something else for the purpose of moving on won't make you feel better...the more you put yourself out there socially, the better the chance you will meet someone that you feel a spark for...and when that happens, you will likely stop thinking about your ex.
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Originally Posted by swedish View Post
My advice would be to stay social..hang out with groups of friends of both sexes and just get used to being on your own for a while. Sitting home and feeling sad is not the answer, but jumping into something else for the purpose of moving on won't make you feel better...the more you put yourself out there socially, the better the chance you will meet someone that you feel a spark for...and when that happens, you will likely stop thinking about your ex.
too.
Very well said, SwedIt's unfair to use others to forget your ex. Take some time to heal. There’s other way to move on, just relax…
I can understand your position. Don’t worry, at all. You can refer to any of the innumerable sites on the internet. Modern Man is a site which I recently came across while surfing the net. The site has excellent dating tips on offer. I am sure you too will find the site very helpful.
I say get back out there! Why sit around and stew over your x if you know there is no chance of getting back together?? Socialize and perhaps you will meet a nice new girl. Good luck.
I say, start by friendship first. Get into the zone. If you still have feelings for her, you may not be able to identify true love, till you are over her. Go out, socialize, get into your hobbies and just try to have fun. Try making friends on promatching or pof Who knows what you may find there.
Start dating or wait?
Re: Start dating or wait?
