I don't mean to imply there's anything wrong with putting a lot of thought into what you want from a relationship as I do think it will come back and bite you if you let things slide that really bother you about someone you're dating...but you use the word 'always' several times and as humans we have our up and down moments and most people aren't always able to be supportive, etc.
if you let things slide that really bother you about someone you're dating...
On the flipside, though, while you're dating you can't do anything but let things slide. I mean, you can compromise during marriage, but if I was on a date with someone and they said to my face that something about me bothered him, he'd be getting naught but a hug at the door and a phone number with 5 digits.
On the flipside, though, while you're dating you can't do anything but let things slide. I mean, you can compromise during marriage, but if I was on a date with someone and they said to my face that something about me bothered him, he'd be getting naught but a hug at the door and a phone number with 5 digits.
The rest of what you said was perfect though.
I agree with you there...I didn't mean to imply you should share everything that bothers you, but know in advance what your core values are and know when to move on...
Now you reminded me why I don't miss the whole dating thing:
This woman I met through a friend from work tried to fix me up with her neighbor. He came to my house in a Corvette and had the matching satin Corvette jacket, not my thing, but I let that slide. A few days later I was talking to my friend from work who clued me in that the reason he divorced was because he and his wife started swinging with the woman that set us up and her husband...and she and this guy decided to continue one-on-one after that....then I started to question whether she fixed us up for him or her or what?! Anyway, that was my cue to move on!
These lists are very good to have, it's not to say your mate should live up to all of them at all, .
i just wish that the one expectation from the list that i truly believed in,
FAITHFULNESS, was the only one on my list that i ever wanted and i never got.
yet i was and remain always faithful .
I agree with you there...I didn't mean to imply you should share everything that bothers you, but know in advance what your core values are and know when to move on...
Now you reminded me why I don't miss the whole dating thing:
This woman I met through a friend from work tried to fix me up with her neighbor. He came to my house in a Corvette and had the matching satin Corvette jacket, not my thing, but I let that slide. A few days later I was talking to my friend from work who clued me in that the reason he divorced was because he and his wife started swinging with the woman that set us up and her husband...and she and this guy decided to continue one-on-one after that....then I started to question whether she fixed us up for him or her or what?! Anyway, that was my cue to move on!
Lol, there are dodgey ones out there!
I did enjoy dating though. Yeah marriage is better but dating has its merits!
i just wish that the one expectation from the list that i truly believed in,
FAITHFULNESS, was the only one on my list that i ever wanted and i never got.
yet i was and remain always faithful .
You would think that as not being such a hard task at all, and in reality through my own experiences, I'm finding some strange things going on. When I am totally single, not dating anybody, I guess I project that, and the ladies seem to sense it and think there may be something wrong with me. When I'm not, it changes and I get almost direct solicitations from them. In the face of temptation, I am an odd creature not to succumb to, yet clearly I can see how it can be hard for some if not many guys not to give in.
It's a major ego boost to have some pretty girl show interest in us, it's how far we allow it that is where the line is crossed. There are a lot of women out there that only want what they cannot have and they can be aggressive about it. The game being played here, if you are like me where I don't know all of the rules can become sticky. In the past, where I thought I was just being me, not trying to mislead, in fact was taken completely wrong and they thought my interests went beyond a simple conversation. I can attest to the other night, where I decided to hang out with some friends to play pool, and towards the end of the night, some girl got really aggressive and was pressing up against me, I did not recipicate, yet it still was an ego boost, be it, I was not sure if my current relationship was even valid, I didn't want to take that chance regardless, even though I knew full well, I'd be leery to get involved with someone that I met in a pub, much less someone that was that aggressive.
I hope this helps along insight, I am in no way looking for someone, yet that is what I face, it's when the guy is actively looking for someone, that clearly means he's crossing the line in a big way and really should not be involved in a relationship.
I can give you some advice here you and the rest of the ladies will find most interesting. The quiet, shy guy is also the loyal type, once you get past that exterior, that wall, you will find something much greater then you can imagine. He has the same aspirations, the same goals, the same degree of complexity, if not more then the typical extravert, he just needs a chance to show it. If you can pick up on that you are going to find a wealth of quality men that are most worthy of your time. Yes, you will have to take some initiative, yes you will have to go out of your way to make him feel like you are safe to approach, the reward is more then worth it though and you will get total and complete loyalty in the process. I know this because I was rather shy with the opposite sex when it came to intimacy of any kind, now, I can step outside of myself here, knowing full well that barrier need not be there, but most guys in these cases never get to that point, so remain overlooked by most of the ladies.
. The quiet, shy guy is also the loyal type, once you get past that exterior, that wall, you will find something much greater then you can imagine.
that was a nice read. im a little down at the moment,
so if im depressing n e 1 with my posts LMK.
but i am actually that person who broke down the walls of the shy guys and i stil do. i know what loyal is.
in school i went around with the boys (tom boy) who were classed as the outsiders. i saw no favouritism and found they were the nicest of the bunch.
no big i am's, or ive got this or got that. no bragging or bigheads. no best of everything .actually cleverer than most of us lot. some geniuses.
unfortunately if you dont have a connection with someone, you establish whats right or wrong for you.
if i'd have had a connection with them, i might have gone out with them. but friendship relationships were established and i stil have those friendship connections with them, if i see them out now.
IF IM OFF THE TOPIC, SORRY.
but one more thing - this is because i dont know how to start a thread.
but the girls and boys in school, who were the elite of the class and school. the real stunners in school - well most of them i found went to the dogs and the boys same thing. look 10 yrs older than what they should be.
the ugly ducklings as we were seen, became the swans.
You have one of the biggest hearts on the forum, and...
And... you sex drive is beyond the wildest dreams of most men
You're the only woman I know who takes sex for a headache
You have one of the biggest hearts on the forum, and...
And... you sex drive is beyond the wildest dreams of most men
You're the only woman I know who takes sex for a headache
thanks mark , your an angel.
and on the mark (literally) for the headache remedy..
but honestly it really works.
that was a nice read. im a little down at the moment,
so if im depressing n e 1 with my posts LMK.
but i am actually that person who broke down the walls of the shy guys and i stil do. i know what loyal is.
in school i went around with the boys (tom boy) who were classed as the outsiders. i saw no favouritism and found they were the nicest of the bunch.
no big i am's, or ive got this or got that. no bragging or bigheads. no best of everything .actually cleverer than most of us lot. some geniuses.
unfortunately if you dont have a connection with someone, you establish whats right or wrong for you.
if i'd have had a connection with them, i might have gone out with them. but friendship relationships were established and i stil have those friendship connections with them, if i see them out now.
IF IM OFF THE TOPIC, SORRY.
but one more thing - this is because i dont know how to start a thread.
but the girls and boys in school, who were the elite of the class and school. the real stunners in school - well most of them i found went to the dogs and the boys same thing. look 10 yrs older than what they should be.
the ugly ducklings as we were seen, became the swans.
I so agree with you there, I too was one of the so called outsiders, I never really fit into any one nich and I too see exactly what you mean along the popular kids turning out to be real duds; It seems that they peaked during high school and that is the best they will ever be, sad really when it comes down to it.
I did manage to finally break down my own walls to a point, I am not that same shy guy as before, yet you will still find me drawing in the back of the room from time to time (yes some I am's, lol). Too often though we do find ourselves not wanting to risk losing a friendship when it can be so much more, and in fact, in too many cases, we'll hang onto one in hopes it turns out to be more, yet never make that push forward with it to the next stage. It is very good to start out as friends, for if the relationship is not built upon friendship and trust it's foundation is weak, you would never want to hurt your friend and cheating would very much do just that. You might want to put some thought into this, mr. right may be within your own circle of friends, you just haven't realized it yet.
Re: My Ideal Mate
Yeah marriage is better but dating has its merits!
