I'm fine with operant conditioning. What ever works! The only problem is that it will probably take more than a dog biscuit. Sirch wiil need deep pockets to fully conduct that experiment! Sounds like fun!
Sorry sirch! I don't know what to recommend. We will have to think of something else. That's the problem where I'm standing. I couldn't think of anymore ideas and that's why I started this thread. I finally decided I had rather date (& start over). For some foolish reason I thought that would be less trouble! lol It's tough to be human!
Well let's see, hummmmmmmm...... ok. I can't think where i'm at so maybe I need to change locations. I'm going to the Flora-Bama, I'll get back to ya when I find some answers!
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I just had to tell you guys I got a big ego boost last night. I was at a surprise birthday party for one of my friends and found myself standing with all the wives. This is the first time I had been around this group since my divorce. They were all asking me about dating and telling me what a great catch I would be, very supportive comments. Then one gal told me I was the reason we (wife and me) had always been included in the get togethers, which really surprised me, I always thought everyone loved my ex but it turns out she wasn't liked very well. Then I was also informed I have always been the "go to guy" (Country girl, you may know this phrase) it turns out that the women decided if something every happens to there husbands I am the guy they would like to go to, that made me feel pretty good. Of coarse I still went home alone but they have promised to find me a woman soon.
They are too funny, a good bunch of friends for sure.
I just had to tell you guys I got a big ego boost last night. I was at a surprise birthday party for one of my friends and found myself standing with all the wives. This is the first time I had been around this group since my divorce. They were all asking me about dating and telling me what a great catch I would be, very supportive comments. Then one gal told me I was the reason we (wife and me) had always been included in the get togethers, which really surprised me, I always thought everyone loved my ex but it turns out she wasn't liked very well. Then I was also informed I have always been the "go to guy" (Country girl, you may know this phrase) it turns out that the women decided if something every happens to there husbands I am the guy they would like to go to, that made me feel pretty good. Of coarse I still went home alone but they have promised to find me a woman soon.
They are too funny, a good bunch of friends for sure.
Cooper
That's wonderful!!!!! It is amazing how people are coming forward with those things. My estranged spouse and I never had any couples as friends, so I haven't had the experience you had though. Hope your friends find someone nice for you.
You'll find this interesting.... I'm going to meet a guy this afternoon (if we can work it out). Only problem is he is a YANKEE. He's originally from New York City and bought a 40 acre farm an hour from here. Talk about a fish out of water!! So, go ahead and give me grief!!!! I've already consulted my mama. She wonders if I have lost my mind or I'm really bored. I told her "BOTH".lol
Don't mean to offend anyone living north of the Mason-Dixon Line. Sirch and I enjoy picking on each other though
Come on Country girl give the yankee boy a chance, maybe he was a fish out of water while living in NYC, maybe now that's he's down south he feels like he's home.
NEW YORK CITY? I just had to scream that (remember the salsa commercials)!!!!!!! Anyway congrats on the dates to you and coop, there is hope out there so keep smiling. As far as finding answers, nope But the bushwackers are still kick ass. Wait I did find out one thing, I cannot drink the bar dry! Coop and CG ya'll have to meet me down there sometime, countrygirl could you imagine what most northerners would think taking them into the Flora-Bama? What a riot!
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Sirch first you got to tell me what and where the Flora-Bama is, sounds like the swamps of Florida and Alabama. Hell, I might fit right in, back in the old days my CB handle was Swamp Rat and my nick name was Dredge, both for good reason. Coarse, nothing in the swamps up here is gonna eat me except the skeeters and deer flys. Maybe I should just stay home!
Hey Sirch what are we going to do, looks like Country Girl is still out on her date, she's gonna dump us electronic men for a real man, what fun is that?
Good morning Sirch and Cooper! Don't worry guys; I'm not going to dump you. This is too much fun! Ya'll are less trouble than "real" men anyway.
Sirch, as legendary as the Flora-Bama is, I've never been there. I really try to stay out of the bars. I learned I couldn't drink the bars dry years ago! Perhaps when I have my mid-life crisis, I'll give it another shot! lol
Unfortunately, my northern friend and I couldn't get things worked out yesterday. We are going to try to meet sometime this week. He is definitely different; I'm not sure if this is a good or bad thing. First, he doesn't want to do IM or e-mails; he wants to talk on the phone for 2 hour sessions. In addition, he seems to be searching for a business partner as well as a soulmate. I'm not used to potential dates wanting to discuss business! He doesn't believe in debt at all--only has one credit card (& only has it for emergencies). However, he previously derived his income from house flipping (on a small scale). That career is at a stand still now. He has a degree in finance, but is unwilling to work for anyone else. And here I am soon to be living on alimony.....
I really don't know why I'm wondering about him. Every date I've had has been really different! If nothing else, I should be able to write one heck of a book one day!
Maybe I do need to visit the Flora-Bama for some inspiration.....
Coop, the Flora-Bama is a old road house that sits on the state line. They have a party every year called the mullet toss, yep they throw fish for charity! You have to see that spectacle to believe it. Countrygirl, be carefull with this guy. Seems to be moving fast, talking business and such. And please don't dump me, I've had enough rejection lately! LOL! If ya go to the Bama try the bushwackers, ummmmmmmmmmmmmmmm good!
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"When a man steals your wife, there is no better revenge than to let him keep her"
Country girl your future date does sound a bit "off". Don't hold the living debt free against him though, I am the same way. I paid off my house in eight years and have never made an interest payment on a credit card in my life. Of coarse now that I'm divorced I get to buy my house again so I am back in debt, ticks me off.
But there are a couple red flags with this guy, internet communication leaves a digital trail, throw away cell phones are hard to trace. Is he looking for someone to date, a business partner, or just someone to scam? Seriously, re read the post you sent describing this guy, he sounds like a scammer to me, or one of these guys who's always trying some new scheme with other peoples money. At the very least I would run a background check on him. If you do meet him ask to see his ID, call your brother or dad or friend and give them the guy's name and address, and make sure he see's you do it. Maybe a little extreme but if he's ligit what would he care. Sorry, just my protective nature kicking in.
Sorry Sirch, I havn't tried to drink a bar dry in 25 years, me and booze aint even close to being on good terms. But the fish throwing part of it does sound pretty funny, that has gotta be a mess!
As I have said before, my dates tend to be interesting. My counselor thinks I should seriously write a book. I guess it will depend on how bored I get, if I decide to meet this guy some place. I'm just afraid our cultures will be too different. His background checks out. Even his farm and house check out through the county clerks office. He doesn't ever call on a cell phone--it's a land line. Believe me, I'm a great detective after checking out all of my miserable hubby's lies. Living with a cheating spouse for 3 years, does a good job of teaching one the fine art of investigation! LOL. The PI I hired also taught me a lot too.
Please don't get me wrong about the debt/credit thing. I am looking for someone who knows how to manage money. I can't stand debt! Before my estranged husband went off the deep end with his mid-life crisis, our business and a large tract of land were free and clear. Also, nothing was owed on credit cards and all vehicles were paid for. In addition, the house was 75% paid. Those were great days and I could sleep at night. However, that crazy ex to be now has us down by almost $800K. I hate it! So, how a potential life partner manages money is extremely important to me. And to be honest, from what I see, most people are lousy at managing money. Maybe that's just the business major in me coming out....
Okay, Sirch, what are bushwackers? How does the fish toss thing work? I bet everyone ends ups smelling so nice participating in that event. Here again, if I get really bored, I just may have to check this out. If nothing else to say I've been there and done that!
Country girl I see you are on the ball and don't need a protective electronic brother. I have a very protective side and it kind of jumped ahead on me there. I'm glad to see you being careful, enjoy the date.
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But the bushwackers are still kick ass. Wait I did find out one thing, I cannot drink the bar dry! Coop and CG ya'll have to meet me down there sometime, countrygirl could you imagine what most northerners would think taking them into the Flora-Bama? What a riot!
