Thanks Cooper! As I said, I may not even go out with him. I'm finding there are some really interesting characters out there. What's funny is the fact that some of these folks are really "out there", and they are actually telling the truth! lol
Yeah guys, I'm very paranoid after putting up with a cheating spouse for three years! You better believe I check everything out. That's my problem now. Although my dating is entertaining, I'm not building trust. But, as my counselor says, at least I'm getting out again.
Sirch, I still want to know what a bushwhacker is. And, also, how does the fish toss work?! I guess I have lead a sheltered life. lol
A bushwacker is a drink silly! the best is at the flora-bama. Every year they throw fish (mullet) across the state line for charity. Really a fun event to watch, especially the ladies.
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Well I don't drink but one bushwacker, they will kick my butt! I generally stick to a cold beer, never have been a wine drinker. I like to go there and people watch and listen to good music. I've never seen any animals there, well maybe a biker guy or two.........
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Hey Country girl, did you ever go out with that NYC guy? Did he ask for you to bring a copy of your 2008 tax returns so he could evaluate your net worth? Just kidding (kinda).
I had a second date this weekend with a gal I met on plenty-of-fish. Very nice person, just to be able to have a conversation with someone who is sincere and honest is enough for me right now. She seems to feel the same way so it works out well for us both.
I have to admit I am a little confused about my wants at this point, at times I want to be involved with someone, but at other times I just don't want the hassel. I have to wonder if that is negitive baggage I carry from my marriage, my ex made being married very difficult. I'm just not sure how I will react if I meet someone and things turn serious. My marriage was just so exhausting and stressful, that's a burden I never want to shoulder again. But I also realize if I meet the right person I wouldn't have to carry the load myself, and maybe the marriage wouldn't be a burden, it would just be life.
Probably common feelings for anyone after divorce.
My Mother's Day was very nice. All of my children got to spend the day with me. Sorry your children couldn't spend the day with their mother. It is her loss!
That's great you had another date with the same lady. That sounds like a nice relationship for you. I've been looking for something like that, but I find nothing even close. I'm keeping my eyes open though.
You know, I've worried about the baggage issue too. This is the main reason I continue to see a therapist; I still have unresolved issues from the hell my soon to be ex put me though. Not only did my ex to be cheat on me, but he destroyed our business (and we are going to have to file for bankruptcy too). I realize I have put a wall around myself now; many days I wonder if I can EVER trust again. However, I am willing to try. That's one reason the counselor wants me to get out and meet people. Now, on the flip side of this, I don't think anyone in our age group is without baggage. All of us divorced people will always carry some of the past with us. The true test is how much we chose to carry into the future. But, I also remember some of the good times in the past and long for those days again.
Yes, I did finally meet the guy from NYC. He is a nice guy, but not what I'm looking for. But now I've got another problem. After one meeting, he thinks I'm "the one". I don't understand what I'm doing wrong; this is the 4th guy to go out with (or just meet) me and want to immediately get serious. I'm very open in the beginning that I'm not looking for a booty call or to get serious. I've also had two other offers this week--one man wanted me to take a business trip with him to Boston and another wanted me to accompany him to Washington DC. Everyone around me finds all of this to be entertaining at least. I would just like to find someone in the middle and hang out!
Not to worry about me getting involved with a "gold digger"......The lawyers have ended up with all of our gold! lol
I wonder if sirch spent some quality time at the Flora-Bama again this weekend.............
Your message cracked me up, and it's great to see you have got to the point where you can laugh about things again. Sometimes things get so bad in our lives all we can do is laugh and wait for the storm to pass.
It has to be kind of a turn off for you when guys come on to strong, flattering as it may be. A dinner date once every couple of weeks is perfect for me right now, my guess is I would step away from anyone who trys to push to fast.
I am very glad you had a nice mothers day, a little golden nugget of happiness to make you smile again.
Helloooooooo there coop and countrygirl! Sorry to have been away for awhile but business has finally picked up and I have been busy. As a matter of fact I was down your way last Friday countrygirl, I had inspections in Opp (home to the famous rattlesnake rodeo) and Ansalusia (home to the dominoes championships). Theres no telling what coops gonna think about our state now! Well as things look I'll be even busier soon, I took a part-time job last week. The last fifteen months have been rough on me financially being in the real estate business, going through this separation and not finding part time work untill now. So I really need to get my savings built back up and get insurance on myself. I can tell ya'll this, it has been great talkng to you two and I am going to stay around. Maybe sometime all three of us can get together at a resteraunt and break bread together. I would love to put faces with the names, untill next time be good!
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It has to be kind of a turn off for you when guys come on to strong, flattering as it may be. A dinner date once every couple of weeks is perfect for me right now, my guess is I would step away from anyone who trys to push to fast.
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This is really an accurate analysis. At first some of the stuff was flattering, but not anymore. I'm not sure what is going on. Apparently everyone perceives me as being warm and down to earth. Practically, everyone I meet for the first time ends up talking to me for at least six hours and begging for me to stay longer. I can't believe how much personal information I get at a first meeting (or on IM or the phone). I'm just glad I don't blush easily! I just wasn't brought up to discuss very personal matters with complete strangers. The counselor and I will have to have a chat regarding this--is it something I'm doing or is it the ones I'm with? I feel like a therapist to all those I meet! And I'm the one who is trying to rebuild trust!
Glad you find all of this funny. I do too! It's definitely better to laugh than cry! And in some strange way, perhaps the comedy of all of this will help my soul to heal. That or I should keep notes and write a book.
I can tell ya'll this, it has been great talkng to you two and I am going to stay around. Maybe sometime all three of us can get together at a resteraunt and break bread together. I would love to put faces with the names, untill next time be good!
That would definitely be my best date yet I do enjoy ya'lls company! It will be a long trip for Cooper.....
That's wonderful about the work! Hopefully things will start looking up for you. Now if you could make some progress with that wife......
Hey countrygirl! Yep you can bet that would be the best date, maybe it can be a chapter in your book, lol. Two guys on one date, how to cope! Anyway no progress with the wife, not really expecting any either. All I am doing is working on me and being there for my little man, staying with limited contact with the wife and I kinda like it! Have a great day!!!!!
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Hey sirch congrats on the new job, gotta be nice to get some cash rolling in again. The real estate market is dead up here in the north as well, very hard economy for sure. I thought the bad market would work to my advantage, I expected my house to have lost value but the divorce appraisial came in higher than I thought, oh well.
Between you and Country girl I may just have to head south and see what I'm missing in life! Fish toss, rattle snake rodeo and domineo's championship! I don't know if I could stand to have that much fun! And then just to see Country girl! She must be the Aphrodite of the south, charms no man can resist!
Hey coop! I've been thinking the same thoughts about countrygirl, she must be a hottie. All those men falling head over heels as soon as they meet her, she must have charms! Maybe it would be wise to stay away from her, I am a sucker for a women with nice melons growing in her garden..........did I just say that? hehehehehe
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