After the loss of her son....
I normally don't post to forums of any kind, but today it seems like the right thing to do, if for no other reason to get it off my chest.
Almost 3 years ago my wife(girlfriend at the time) lost her 15 year old son and his best friend to a car accident. While I had become very close to him, I know that the pain that I feel is nothing compared to what she is going through.
I have been there for her as much as she needed (more than she needed if you ask her) and do as much as I can to try to put some happiness back into her life even now.
The problem is there is no intimacy in our marriage. We have been married for 1.5 years and haven't made love in since the accident.
Let me say that I love her with all that I have and have never strayed.
She told me the other day that the only reason that she has been able to survive everything is because of me. She was crying and said that she thinks that she is a terrible wife and she is sorry, but she is always sad.
What I want more than anything is to see her happy and for there to be some intimacy back in our lives. My confidence has taken a major hit. I try to hold her and kiss her, but I don't get anything in return.
Does anyone have any suggestions as to what I can do to help her become as whole as she can be and bring more happiness back to our lives.